I just need to tidy, but have lost the ability to do basic household tasks. I'm never going to have any money, and I really do mean any money. I don't need to be rich but I'm not enjoying life in the slightest.

But never mind, at least I can rely on people online to call me privileged because of my genitals and skin colour.

[–] OwenEverbinde@lemmy.myserv.one 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

at least I can rely on people online to call me privileged because of my genitals and skin colour

Dude. Life is too short. Spoons are too hard to come by. Whoever is saying that to you, block them. Block them right now. For good measure, block one or two people for the mere crime of showing clips containing this bullshit rhetoric.

Not people complaining while offering wholesome alternatives, mind you, like Jordan_the_Stallion8 or Speech Prof or Joey Swoll (YOU MUST NEVER BLOCK JOEY SWOLL!)

But if you're following some internet personality, and they show these weird extremists to you, and all you feel is anger afterwards... get rid of the people showing you the crazy man-haters. You do not need that in your life.

There will always be some portion of the population that seeks to invalidate every form of pain. Every, single form of pain!

saying rape victims are "asking for it"
saying poor people just need to work harder
saying ADHD folks like you and I are only held back by our laziness
saying black people who get the shit kicked out of them by a police officer "should have tried to deescalate"
saying white men live easy lives

Often these people are narcissists, and are fed by the outrage they generate. Sometimes they are just set in their ways, and don't realize that science and society have moved past their obsolete worldview.

But in all cases, these people aren't worth your limited energy.

Block them and subscribe to ADHD groups on all of your apps.

[–] feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Thanks.

I don't deliberately follow that sort of stuff, that would not be good for my mental health. I certainly don't seek out that sort of rhetoric; I know some people do. Cynically, I would say those people must enjoy it.

[–] TrippySquidsman@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yeah I feel that. 'Privileged' but utterly lost in life. Can't stop drinking, so I'm perpetually broke and tired.

But hey! I'm living in a first world country so at least I'm ✨lucky✨

[–] bibliotectress@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

But never mind, at least I can rely on people online to call me privileged because of my genitals and skin colour.

Woah there. No one said your life was going to be fantastic because you're a white male. But you most likely DO deal with less systemic injustices than women or people of color who are in the same situation as you. I recommend reading books or having conversions with real life people to gain perspective.

It's amazing how you turned frustration over your own life onto other people.

[–] TrippySquidsman@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

We're allowed to be depressed and frustrated. The fact that we can realise our privilege doesn't mean we lack perspective- it means we're tired of life's bullshit. Have some empathy.

[–] bibliotectress@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I DO have empathy. You ARE allowed to feel depressed and frustrated. Your comment at the end came out of nowhere. You went from talking about being miserable and how awful everything is, and I was nodding along as another depressed frustrated person, and then blame people calling out white privilege.

Most people who do that deny that it exists. If you're not one of those people, then I'm sorry I misunderstood what you were saying and will take it as a general nonsequitur.

[–] feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yes, I'm the original poster; you were responding to somebody else before.

To clarify, I'm not blaming people pointing out systemic privilege, I'm just getting a bit fed up of having it leveled at me, an extremely poor person who was disowned by his family, hospitalised and made homeless on two occasions. Both parents had mental health issues of their own, which had an impact on my upbringing.

In general the people who attack me for my race and gender tend to be relatively wealthy white women, or (less frequently) wealthy mixed-race women with one white parent. I wonder if it's a cognitive dissonance thing, as a response to their own wealth privilege.

I use the term wealth privilege because globally that's really what the issue is. I don't want to fall into the trap of generalising based on my immediate surroundings. Certainly the wealth skews male and white where I live, although the richest family in the UK is actually Indian.

I benefit materially from being male because I don't have to worry about pregnancy. That's the most fundamental systemic inequality I can think of, and it's in our genes. I absolutely understand that, and am vocally supportive of legal protections for women.

Looking at the USA I can see the alarming difference in inherited wealth between "races" and it's astonishing, and the sheer extent of the racism I hear about from certain areas is disturbing.

I do not live in an ethnically homogenous area and have always had friends from various backgrounds. Anecdotally, the material deprivation in a subset of white working-class households is more severe, which is likely a geographical thing. The majority of minority households skew towards middle-class here (suburban to rural), as wealthier first- and second-generation immigrant families moved away from population hubs.

[–] OwenEverbinde@lemmy.myserv.one 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The person saying "have some empathy" and the person complaining about being called privileged are two different accounts, fyi.

[–] bibliotectress@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Oh. I should've checked. Thank you!!!