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What "little" experiences changed the way you percieved things ? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by needthosepylons@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Idk if "little experience" means something in English, but what I meant is non-life changing/threatening. Things that would otherwise go unnoticed.

For me, it was when I stopped drinking acoholic beverages because.. I ended up finding it boring, I guess.

I started noticing how low key hostile my environment is towards people who dont drink. People started thinking I was sick, depressed, converted to islam, being snob, etc.

Bartenders started to openly mock me when I asked for a lemonade (they still do) : "We dont do that here", "Go to a physician if you need that", "you're in a bar you know ?".

I started realizing how hostile my country/region/groups can be to people who dont drink. Never realized that before.

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[–] Mieserknacker@feddit.de 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The peer pressure is pretty similar here in germany: "You can have a beer and still drive" - Yeah, but I don't want to "Beer is not even 'real' alcohol", "You can have a Radler it only has 2% alcohol", "real germans don't drink non-alcoholic beer".

I have to say that I did not always dislike alcohol. It was actually the other way around and I consumed far too much. Not that I needed it to survive throughout the day, but I had hangovers pretty much every weekend. So, by now I only drink 2-3 times a year, because also it does interfere with my sports activity a lot. But it hate it if peole are pulling up answers and excuses like the above.

But what I also noticed when I was in france is, that for many people wine is also like a normal drink and it's perfectly fine to have 1-2 glasses of red wine for lunch. Also something, thats the same in germany, especially bavaria, but with another drink. If you have a glass of wine for lunch you're considered an alcoholic, if you have a beer it's normal since you're in germany.

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[–] needthosepylons@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

Yeah, I heard those replies too.

I was especially shocked it took my closest friends a long time to understand it didn't mean I was distancing from them. Even 4 years later, from time to time, I still hear those.