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What's the most interesting traditional or formal politeness behaviour or table manners in your culture? Or for any service personnel, in your restaurant? (kbin.social)

submitted 7 months ago by Hegar@kbin.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I love all the ritualized behaviour, secret meanings and unexpected taboos - standing up when someone of higher status stands, elaborate rules for serving and eating, tapping the table to thank the server, never refuse a toast from a superior, stuff like that.

Whether it's about meals or anything else, I'd love to hear about any uncommon politeness standard or similar social behaviour that goes on in your location, culture or restaurant!

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[–] Jimmycrackcrack@lemmy.ml 16 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Oh man I'd hate that. I don't want to feel watched while I eat and I don't like to pretend the staff aren't there and not even address their help with at least a thank you. Whereabouts is this custom?

[–] i_stole_ur_taco@lemmy.ca 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

“I’M GOING TO PAY! YOU CAN STOP WATCHING ME FFS!”

[–] Jimmycrackcrack@lemmy.ml 10 points 7 months ago

To be fair, your name is "I stole your taco".

[–] Asclepiaz@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago

The best servers don't hover in obvious ways. I swear more times than I can count I've finished a drink, said something to my dining partner or taken a bite of food, and looked down to find a new Shirley temple. Those servers are magic and earn their tips. (disclaimer I hate tipping culture but this is the world we exist in and some nice lady bringing me Shirley temples shouldn't suffer for me not liking it)