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[–] wagesj45@kbin.run 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

Polarization doesn't help anyone. Both groups are suffering as they retreat further and further into their own in-groups. It sucks and it takes a lot of conscious effort on all parties' part to overcome. And unreciprocated effort feels awful and risks pushing people away at an even faster rate.

I'm not sure we're really equipped, as a society/species to overcome that effort barrier given our current information diet (infinite) and our stupid monkey brains (very limited).

[–] VirtualOdour@sh.itjust.works 12 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, it's hard talking people out of Andrew tate positions when it's so easy to point to reactionary hate and so hard to find nuanced opinions.

We really need to get to the point we recognize everyone as human and acknowledge that means we're all flawed and biased and needy, and that's OK because that's what life is.

[–] wagesj45@kbin.run 2 points 6 months ago

It also helps when we can learn to not take things personally. I know it would help because I have such a hard time with that. It is one of my fatal flaws. It is something I suspect I'll always struggle with because no amount of self rationalization ever prevents that next episode of being generalized negatively and feeling personally attacked.

We're all just pushin' our boulder up a hill, eh?

[–] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml -4 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] wagesj45@kbin.run 6 points 6 months ago

By who? What lie? I think you'd have a hard time arguing that polarization isn't harmful to all groups. Did you think I was arguing that men really are monsters? Because I hate that characterization.