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How has it been for you? Do you get FOMO feeling sometimes?

I use Reddit less and less but haven’t fully quit yet. Always have this odd feeling of FOMO regards content.

Not only that, some subreddits haven’t migrated to any other platform unfortunately. Or they have but the content is very little compared to Reddits content.

Note - wasn’t sure where to post this. So if this wasn’t the right place, apologies!

The issue I have with Reddit - it’s full of hateful people and most content is just bots karma farming.

EDIT: Thanks for all the responses!

EDIT 2: Thanks for the ones that mentioned RSS-Feed. Just got it and it’s amazing. Still manage to only follow the subreddits that I like without crapads.

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[–] TJDetweiler@lemmy.ca 70 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

Fully left Reddit. Hate that they killed Sync so bounced. Don't miss it at all.

The flip side is Lemmy is meh. Every damn post is Linux shilling. We get it. Lemmy users like Linux. At least Sync works on this site.

Ultimately, I guess I just don't care about either site. I just want something to mindlessly browse for a few minutes every day when I'm shitting, and Lemmy is fine.

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[–] GammaGames@beehaw.org 49 points 1 year ago (7 children)

FOMO is a silly and manipulative phenomenon, I encourage you to try to figure out how you can break it. I left the day Apollo stopped working

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[–] yote_zip@pawb.social 40 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I left reddit totally when I made my account here. Lemmy has been great, but it's not a full replacement per se. Most often I've just decided I can live without the niche reddit content. Lemmy has plenty of its own content, and it's enough for me to fill that "hole".

As I'm sure many are aware, reddit has addictive qualities that aren't always serving your best interest. Just because there's a subreddit for r/breadstapledtotrees doesn't mean you should dedicate time out of your day to look at it. All the important discussions to me have mostly moved over here, and all the people who are posting and commenting on Lemmy have a much much higher level of aptitude on these topics than redditors (I like that you can go into a random meme community on Lemmy and pick a fight about filesystems).

We still need to create and fill a lot of niche communities here, but Rome wasn't built in a day and we're making great progress here in just a few months. Lemmy feels viable and sustainable and I think we're past the hard part of gaining critical mass and making daily Lemmy use a habit. My call-to-action would be to stop searching reddit for answers to things and start posting those questions on Lemmy. There are so many smart people here waiting to infodump their experience onto you.

[–] bl4ckblooc@lemmy.world 17 points 1 year ago (4 children)

This comment seems very related to the specific content you are looking for. Lemmy is a good place for tech information but that’s about it. Cooking, home improvement, personal finance, DIY, crafting etc don’t have homes on here with many active users, and especially not the amount of knowledgeable users that were on Reddit.

This all started because of an API change, so it would make sense that the predominant amount of users who migrated are more tech savvy.

[–] Blaze@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 1 year ago

!personalfinance@lemmy.ml people seem pretty knowledgeable, it's more that people don't ask that many questions.

!food@lemmy.world have been merging the othercooking communities recently so hopefully activity increases there

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[–] Zetta@mander.xyz 29 points 1 year ago

I went from maybe 1 - 2 hours of reddit use per day for years to 0 the day 3rd party clients were turned off.

I don't feel fomo, but I only use lemmy maybe 15 - 30 minutes per day on average, and I am happy about that

[–] NedRyerson@lemmy.ml 28 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I miss it. It makes me angry, and a little sad, and definitely lonely. I miss the community and the friends I had (which accounted for too much of my social interaction). But I still feel like it was the right move.

It is a toxic place in many ways, but there are communities there that are hard to replace. I ignored much of what was happening for far too long, and a lot of my pain now comes from a failure to deal with that reality when I should have done

Instead I moved with the masses, at least in theory. I hate that it was necessary, but I would do it again.

[–] Darkbug@lemmy.one 10 points 1 year ago

I've only gone back to reddit anonymously a few times for technical information or guides. I do miss it in some ways but I don't miss how toxic it could be.

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[–] RubberElectrons@lemmy.world 23 points 1 year ago

Life's been nice here. It was uncomfortable losing all the stuff I'd subbed, the content was slim when I first switched... But I knew it would be.

You adjust, you find new things to enjoy around here even when you lose things that as yet have no replacement from Reddit.

But I'm serious about the need for privacy and escaping ads. I have no regrets.

[–] DeltaTangoLima@reddrefuge.com 21 points 1 year ago

Honestly, I haven't missed it. I'm no longer doom-scrolling an eternal screen of karma-farming bullshit.

I took part in the blackout protest and tried Lemmy at the same time. When Reddit proved they didn't give a shit, I went back long enough to scrub my post and comment history, before deleting my ~15yo account entirely. Sure, they could probably recover the data, but why would they?

I use Pihole for DNS and a private searx-ng instance for web search, so I just block all Reddit domains in DNS and search results, and it's genuinely like it doesn't exist for me any more.

Also, the pace on Lemmy is much nicer, IMHO. I find a lot of days I only look at Lemmy a couple of times, and very quickly move on if there's no posts of interest to me.

[–] bizzle@lemmy.world 20 points 1 year ago

I totally quit reddit and I miss it. I miss it so much, in fact, that I tried to go on there like nothing ever happened- but it sucks so bad that I still missed Reddit, even when I was literally using it. It's just terrible now. Lemmy is mad decent, and I really like how it isn't run for profit. Still a little janky in some regards, and it's definitely skewed toward certain demographics, but it's definitely my favorite social platform.

[–] lvxferre@lemmy.ml 19 points 1 year ago (4 children)

For me it was great. I've been trying to leave that shithole for years; Lemmy got enough content quantity and diversity to keep me entertained.

I do miss a few niche subs; mostly r/conlangs, game-specific subs, and a few subs for anime/manga/LN series. But I don't really feel missing out.

I also miss behaving like a shit-flinging monkey and chimping out. I don't do this here in Lemmy, but I did it all the time in Reddit. I guess that I contributed to what you call "hateful people"? Perhaps not, you don't look like the sort of user that I'd chew on.

The issue I have with Reddit - it’s full of hateful people and most content is just bots karma farming.

My issue with Reddit is also the userbase. But it's on another level: the local culture of Reddit encourages braindeadness, disingenuousness, entitlement, and circlejerking.

[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

the local culture of Reddit encourages braindeadness, disingenuousness, entitlement, and circlejerking

I feel like I see more of that here, at least because there are no active replacements yet for the niche subreddits I used to participate in which were actually moderated to remove low-effort comments. I would never have posted in /r/politics if I wanted to discuss a controversial topic, but here I feel like that's the only option.

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[–] jeena@jemmy.jeena.net 16 points 1 year ago (6 children)

I don't have FOMO, I feel that there is enough for me to read here and I also use other platforms like https://news.ycombinator.com/ and Mastodon to get info about things which are not that popular here.

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[–] bartolomeo@suppo.fi 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

TBH it feels like I'm in high school now and going to Reddit is like visiting the middle school.

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[–] Knusper@feddit.de 14 points 1 year ago (5 children)

The issue I have with Reddit - it’s full of hateful people

I left two or three years before the big wave, for precisely this reason. It really is a toxic culture – it seeps into your brain that you cannot say something mildly wrong or controversial without the mob snowballing your comment to death.
No one affords others any goodwill, because not doing so makes their own number go up.

I was on Mastodon for quite a while, because Lemmy wasn't a thing yet. And over there, you can only make people's numbers go up and the culture reflects that.
I do feel like the Lemmy model works better for unearthing content (Mastodon is more about people), but I can't help but feel like there ought to be a path in the middle.

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[–] REdOG@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago

Id been there 16 years, fuck em. Cold turkey and haven't been back. Making new habits is hard, take the help you get is my advice and make a better habit. I've been programming more and uh uh refining my porn consumption lol

[–] sunbeam60@lemmy.one 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

18 year reddit veteran.

I haven’t contributed or actively browsed Reddit since moving to Lemmy. Three visits from a google search for a specific problem.

I don’t get FOMO - too long in the tooth for that, but I do miss the center ground politically on Lemmy, which despite my best attempt of locating I haven’t found here. I sometimes feel like I’m the only one to frown at both nazis and tankies here.

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[–] tigeruppercut@lemmy.zip 13 points 1 year ago

I miss some of the niche communities but I'm less addicted to social media these days so it seems like a step in the right direction

[–] satans_crackpipe@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago

The FOMO feeling subsides quickly when I pop back over there. It's all children and bots now.

I wouldn't call it FOMO, but I am sad about not seeing a lot of smaller niche communities that haven't made the switch. Maybe eventually stuff like USB C hardware will be popular enough to have the same community.

[–] orgrinrt@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago

No FOMO, haven’t really missed anything personally. The way I used reddit transferred perfectly to lemmy

[–] Ludrol@szmer.info 11 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I don't have FOMO for reddit. I am held hostage by r/HonzukiNoGekokujou but I try to build bookwormstory.social and make a nice place for them.

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[–] jose1324@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I only go back for the porn and if I need IT based answers. It's unmatched sadly

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[–] jedi_hamster@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

You guys sound like addicts

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[–] CodeMonkeyUK@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago

Cold turkey is the only way, for your mental health and the quicker demise of the cesspit that is reddit.

[–] DichotoDeezNutz@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I do miss the discussions... Lemmy is great but it's not what Reddit was.

[–] Hubi@feddit.de 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Reddit is also no longer what reddit was.

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[–] seabromd@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The discussions were what really made Reddit, to me. I could see an article or piece of information anywhere, but Reddit often had decent commentary that helped add context and perspective.

Wasn't perfect, of course, but in general it felt like it really added to the experience.

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[–] spauldo@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It's been bad for me.

All those hate filled posts everyone talks about? I never saw those on Reddit, because I had a couple dozen technical subs (r/emacs, r/PLC, etc.) that I'd browse and rarely if ever strayed from those. Reddit was big enough that the specialized subreddits generated enough content for my use case.

Some of those communities exist here, but they're practically empty. So I wind up doom scrolling on All, which is full of tankie garbage and political propaganda.

I dunno, while I like the idea of Lemmy, I don't think it's likely to ever get the traffic you need for my kind of use. I probably just need to diversify my phone use and visit other sites.

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[–] Euphorazine@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I stopped using reddit regularly when sync for reddit went down. I was curious and checked to see if sync came back, maybe the API war subsided, but instead I saw sync for lemmy.

So this is day 2. Haven't figured everything out yet.

Seems like you use /c for "community" (?) Instead of r for subreddit.

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[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 year ago

I've been using Lemmy exclusively for social media for a few months after being hooked on Reddit for a decade. Lemmy feels much more higher quality - there's real conversation happening here. It reminds me of how great the Internet was in the early 00s.

I only use Reddit for work resources when troubleshooting an issue. It's certainly handy for that, and I think the world would lose a lot of knowledge if Reddit shuts down.

[–] Jamie@jamie.moe 10 points 1 year ago

Leaving Reddit gave me the opposite of FOMO. I'm glad to not be fed as much algorithm-tailored BS as before. I still use YouTube, but most of my YouTube viewing is at least related to my other hobbies.

[–] HairHeel@programming.dev 9 points 1 year ago

Every time it shows up in search results, I’m reminded by their terrible UI that I made the right choice

[–] 31415926535@lemm.ee 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm old enough to have seen fads, social movements, come and go, technology changing constantly. I've learned one must adapt, things always change, and one should be careful about what one gets used to, what one depends on. Sometimes you have a good thing, then it dissappears. What matters is how you respond. I've learned to prepare for emergencies, what would I do if this is suddenly taken away?

Reddit was where I realized the online world has changed a lot the past 2 or so decades. Back in the day, we'd actively curate, use rss feeds, find a bunch of sites we liked, and create our own customized feeds.

But by the time of reddit, we were no longer doing that work for ourselves. I started to notice a pronounced echo chamber effect, less variety, seeing same stuff over and over.

[–] atocci@kbin.social 9 points 1 year ago

I feel more out of touch with current events that aren't related to US politics and I have fewer memes to send in the group chat, but no FOMO. Combined with quitting Twitter, it's been good for focusing more on myself. I think I watch YouTube more than I used to now though.

[–] ensignrick@startrek.website 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I made an account this week.. first time since June 3rd. I used it for 5 mins. Saw ads in the comments I was typing a response to. Deleted the account. The few niche communities I want are just not worth it. Reddit is dead. That was the final test. It shall diminish and go into the west.

[–] Rukmer@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

I fully quit Reddit in June when Sync couldn't access Reddit anymore. I sometimes miss aspects of it. I'm trying to do things in the real world more. I'm on Lemmy a few times a week. For a while I was on Lemmy every day, but the content didn't keep up with my consumption. I do like the content better, but there's less of it. I'm trying to replace these things with better habits. I spend time online looking for local events and looking up tutorials on YouTube (NewPipe). I'm actually trying to do those events and follow those tutorials. The less content I take in, the better I feel. Trying to develop real world ambitions. It's a little tricky.

[–] IvanOverdrive@lemm.ee 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I haven't signed into Reddit since the Apollo debacle. No, I don't miss it at all. Lemmy is maturing. It's only going to get better from here. Spez is going to do something else and we're going to get even more migrations.

[–] arthur@lemmy.zip 8 points 1 year ago

If something is worth sharing there, it will come here or somewhere else where you can see it eventually. The only thing you are really missing, is some content from a creator you like. But usually they have their own platforms where you can find them.

[–] CannedTuna@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 year ago

Fully left Reddit. I don’t miss it at all. I do find it a little annoying when someone links me to a Reddit post just because of how terrible the site looks or how they want you to sign in.

[–] orcrist@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago

I don't miss that site. There's plenty of other online content. And the bots and trolls were meh.

[–] imgel@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago

I'm a man of convictions. Im not connected to the internet.

[–] alonely0@programming.dev 7 points 1 year ago

I have completely stopped using reddit as a social media and deleted all of my content; I only use it for if I have to research something, and I make sure that they get no money because of my visit.

[–] extant@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

I started to ween myself off when they announced they were killing third party apps since I was never going to use that trash app. As the weeks went on and they showed they would rather prioritize their interests over the community I realized things would never change and the idea of what reddit was in my head didn't match reality so I made a few Lemmy accounts.

There are a few niche subreddits that didn't come over or I just haven't found them, honestly I've not really looked. It took a bit to acclimate to Lemmy and how things federate and there were a few syncing issues that were fixed pretty quickly as the exodus happened which is really nice. The admins on all the instances seem to have their own biases in how they run their community and those seem to fall in line with the rest of their communities so it doesn't seem like a big deal as most recognize their differences and try and work together anyway. I think that even though some may disagree or outright hate each other they want the concept of the fediverse to work so they put in the effort which is all anyone can ask of each other.

As for how I'm doing and the fear of missing out, it's honestly not much different other than a few niche communities that are available off of reddit anyway so I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. The only thing we don't have is a fediverse mascot afaik.

[–] HowMany@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago (8 children)

reddit isn't verbotten - hell, I still have a myspace account... This "place" will grow. Let it. Then someday everyone will say "fuck lemmy - let's move to scritum" or something as cryptic. Probably using hieroglyphics, err, I mean emojis.

I mean, face it... reddit was fine up until a few years ago - well - five or more. Then the musk wannabee bought it and it turned to shit. Before then it was okay. a bit prudish for the 21st century but still workable.

Ten years ago it was way neato - just like Lemmy is now. So, moral of this story is let Lemmy grow without using a crowbar.

: )

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