Relic5646

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How to plan something with someone who doesn't have ADHD? in c/adhd@lemmy.world
[–] Relic5646@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Both. Currently she wants help deciding how long to stay in which places, and wants help picking and booking hotels. So she's trying to wait until I'm ready to plan, but I'm basically never ready to plan until it's right before the trip and I need to rush to make up for lost time.

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How to plan something with someone who doesn't have ADHD? (lemmy.world)
 

I have ADHD and my partner does not. When we were planning our wedding it was really difficult because she would do most of the planning (because I wasn't doing it and someone had to and she loves planning), but when we needed to plan anything together it was like pulling teeth for me. I wanted to help out but it was always so difficult to get myself to actually do anything.

The same thing happens with vacation planning. Even planning a trip to somewhere I want to go can feel about as fun as doing taxes. We're currently trying to plan a trip overseas that's just in a few months, and my partner really wants to book hotels (I totally agree) but any amount of planning feels like I'm being punished, and I don't know why. I don't have any fun and my mood tanks and I just get quiet and a little irritable.

Anyone else experience this and have any suggestions? I hate leaving all of the planning to my partner, but planning on my schedule has lead to us missing things in the past.

Random thoughts, feel free to ignore: I wonder if it's partly because it's not urgent (as in what we could plan today could just as easily be planned tomorrow) vs importance thing? If we planned on "my schedule" we'd be doing things way too close to the actual date. If we set a date to vacation plan, when it comes I just treat it like a todo list item I just need to finish up so I can get back to whatever I want to do instead.

ZFS says drive is faulted, does that always mean it needs replacing? in c/selfhosted@lemmy.world
[–] Relic5646@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I've been suuuuper lazy troubleshooting this so it's been a few weeks, but I talked to WD support, they said to run a full extended S.M.A.R.T. test on the drive, it passed with no issues.

Reconnected it to my server using a different SATA cable on a different port on the motherboard, with a different power connector. It resilvered with no problems, and a zpool scrub returned no errors this time so hopefully I'm in the clear!

I have a script that runs once a week that does a scrub then sends the output of zpool status to a Discord channel. When this first started it had read errors (as mentioned in the post), then checksum errors two weeks later. With there being a couple different errors before troubleshooting, and now with no errors after a scrub I'm hoping this means everything's fine now.

People born in the year 2000 don't have to try and calculate how old they are when people ask them their age in c/showerthoughts@lemmy.world
[–] Relic5646@lemmy.world 29 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I always thought it was nuts that people don't remember, then I turned 30 and got married to someone who has a birthday less than a year before mine. Now I have two ages to remember (that are sometimes the same) and it takes a second for me to remember which is me when asked.

ZFS says drive is faulted, does that always mean it needs replacing? in c/selfhosted@lemmy.world
[–] Relic5646@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Wow that's pretty substantial, thanks for the tips! Wow yeah Backblaze does seem pretty affordable.

ZFS says drive is faulted, does that always mean it needs replacing? in c/selfhosted@lemmy.world
[–] Relic5646@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Thanks, I'll try some of those things out and see if a second scrub says the same.

That being said I have pretty good backups

Out of curiosity, what do you do for backups? The initial cost of 3x12TB drives was enough to make me not want to spend a bunch more money on backup stuff at the time, but now that I'm seeing errors I'm willing to spend a bit of money again and should look into my options.

ZFS says drive is faulted, does that always mean it needs replacing? in c/selfhosted@lemmy.world
[–] Relic5646@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Thanks, I will start a backup now. I don't have any extra automated backups so I guess this is my wake-up call to figure something out.

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ZFS says drive is faulted, does that always mean it needs replacing? (lemmy.world)
 

My weekly zpool scrub came back with this:

  pool: blackhole
 state: DEGRADED
status: One or more devices are faulted in response to persistent errors.
    Sufficient replicas exist for the pool to continue functioning in a
    degraded state.
action: Replace the faulted device, or use 'zpool clear' to mark the device
    repaired.
  scan: scrub repaired 0B in 02:01:59 with 0 errors on Tue Jul 11 04:02:09 2023
config:

    NAME                                    STATE     READ WRITE CKSUM
    blackhole                               DEGRADED     0     0     0
      raidz1-0                              DEGRADED     0     0     0
        ata-WDC_WD120EDAZ-11F3RA0_5PG8DYKC  ONLINE       0     0     0
        ata-WDC_WD120EFBX-68B0EN0_5QKJ6M8B  ONLINE       0     0     0
        ata-WDC_WD120EFBX-68B0EN0_5QKJTT8B  FAULTED     51     0     0  too many errors

errors: No known data errors

I only got the drive 6 months ago, well within WD's 3 year warranty so I opened a support case, but do errors like this basically always mean the drive is its way out or is it possible to have false positives?

Can we settle this: how many holes does a straw have? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
[–] Relic5646@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

Judging by what this video by Vsauce about how many holes a human has it should be one in a straw. A straw is basically just a long doughnut and there's one hole in those.

I need to survive for 3 days without pooping, and eating as little as possible. I can pee, but not very often. It can't take up too much space. What food do I pack? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
[–] Relic5646@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Uncomfortable pooping somewhere with no bidet available?