dragonlover

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[–] dragonlover@lemmy.zip 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I am appalled that no one has brought this up so far- but it hurts because they are touching the cervix, which generally doesn't get touched, and can be very painful to hit. The speculum they are inserting is designed to slightly open the cervix for the examination.

OP, there are many sizes of vagina. You may have one that's on the smaller side, with a low pelvic floor. My partner is the same way, and penetration can be painful for them. We have switched to using very small toys or focusing on clitoral stimulation to get them off instead of relying on penetration.

If your doctor clears you, you may just have a low pelvic floor, and may not like penetrative sex. Which is fine! It's just good to know about yourself.

[–] dragonlover@lemmy.zip 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Not quite, at least not in American healthcare terms. A copay is your portion of the cost for an appointment, procedure, or prescription. For example of the doctor visit is $100 and my copay is $25, I pay $25 and the insurance pays $75 (in practice the insurance doesn't ever really pay their full share but that's a more complicated part of the equation.)

The deductible is how much I have to pay out of pocket in a year before the insurance starts paying anything. My deductible might be say, $1000, meaning I have to pay $1000 out of pocket before the insurance kicks in to cover anything at all.

max out of pocket is the maximum amount you will pay for medical in a year.

Oh and of course there is the premium which you pay monthly for the pleasure of having insurance.

So if your premium is $200, copay is $25, your deductible is $1000, and your max out of pocket is $5000, and a (normal non specialty) doctor visit is $100, you have to visit the doctor 10 times before the insurance pays anything at all (you pay the full $100 each time) and then the 11th visit is $25 and the insurance pays the rest. If you visit the doctor enough to hit max out of pocket (160 more visits to a normal non specialty doctor), then the insurance kicks in to pay 100%. And no your monthly $200 premium doesn't go towards your max out of pocket

Most people never hit their max out of pocket and most people without kids that Ive talked to never hit their deductible unless they have a condition that requires regular treatment or if they get into an accident or have something major happen. Then you can blow out your deductible / max out of pocket in one hospital visit.

So basically your insurance is paid to do diddly squat, except prevent you from going bankrupt if you get into a car accident (except they will totally find ways to deny your claim anyways).

Source: am a trans man with a neurological condition. I'm a medical nightmare and have had to learn to be a self advocate through multiple American insurances.

[–] dragonlover@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago

I vastly prefer it to calibre web personally, but it's all up to personal preference. Kavita has a pretty extensive user guide too

I use calibre to label books by series. I don't think I did anything crazy with the folder structure outside of putting comics, manga, and books in separate directories.

I have one media directory with books / manga / comics in separate subdirectories. I process metadata with calibre or other tools as needed, and point Kavita at my books directory and tell it to scan. Kavita should automatically group books of the same series together provided the series name is exact. (eg: "The adventures of Bob" vs "adventures of Bob, The" would be seen as different series. Kavita should also group the libraries together by directory, so I have 3 libraries, books, manga, and comics.

You do need to make sure books are all in the correct formats. I batch convert everything to epub and limit Kavita to only show epubs to avoid duplicates.

The upside to all this is that Kavita comes with a cleaner interface imho, opds is easier to set up, and I've had less issues with it. Also users can set their own reading lists and collections if you are setting this up for other users.

[–] dragonlover@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 week ago

The "god" in that sentence is the chatbot convincing her it is a god.

And her name doesn't specify her faith. She might be christian, she might not be. Her parents most definitely were since they named her, but people don't always take up the faith of their parents.

Regardless, her faith has no bearing on this case. She could have a room temperature IQ, have been drunk, and had 3 mental disorders, none of that excuses a robot causing psychosis in her and causing her to commit suicide to be excusable.

[–] dragonlover@lemmy.zip 8 points 1 week ago

What a load of crock. Hilariously this worked the opposite way for me. Was working in a medium sized business as the only tech support person. Boss was constantly asking "what do you do all day?" because I'd miss one thing on his task list, even though I was supporting the whole company. Got missed for promotions because "You don't come say hi to the whole office in the morning."

Moved to a fully remote job, started popping up more on the radars of execs because suddenly if they want people to show up to their weird little culture events they have to invite people to them on calendar events, and I can join them since I'm remote and can do my work at the same time as having it up on another monitor. They see my name and face everywhere and start associating me with someone who "shows up to the conversations". I'm remote, do less work faster and happier, and am already interviewing for promotions.

And bonus I can just ignore people's shitty social games, or wait to react to questions or requests until I've had time to think them through, instead of someone walking up to my desk in the middle of an outage and interpreting my stress as unfriendliness.

[–] dragonlover@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 week ago

Drawing, model kit building, crochet, knitting, sewing, 3d printing, fishkeeping, plants/ terrarium keeping, games, homelab....

Lots of these have overlap. Drawing and model kit building started as a kid, and 3D printing (resin) is a natural progression from that, because I can build custom parts or scenes or whatever.

Fishkeeping / terrarium keeping came about a few years ago when I was living in a pretty shit place. I saw a video online of shrimp being chill and just eating algea and I went huh I wonder how hard it is to get shrimp. Went to the pet store and got some shrimp, failed to keep them, and researched how to properly care for shrimp and snails. That evolved into fish keeping, with multiple large tanks. Then I found serpa designs on YouTube and became hooked. From there I tried making moss terrariums and I want to branch into vivariums when I'm in a place to do so. I want to implement some of my modeling skills to make living scenes with things like moss and other plants.

Homelab came naturally to me after wanting to figure out how people did piracy nowadays and learning about the arrs stack. Taught myself docker and started tinkering with other containers and programs, which got me into learning programming.

Crochet and knitting are my weakest hobby - I was moving between countries and wanted to learn something I could do in my downtime that was travel friendly. Hooks / needles and some yarn can fit in a small carry case. I want to make stuffed animals but I need to learn more to get to that point.

[–] dragonlover@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 week ago (2 children)

For books: mam (manually now that readarr died) -> calibre -> Kavita

If it's a manga or comic, bypass calibre, straight to Kavita + komf for metadata / covers.

[–] dragonlover@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago

Back in the day we called this roleplay and you went to a forum or irc chat to find like-minded nerds to rp with you

I do not get the appeal of the AI being the character. It loses all of the creativity

[–] dragonlover@lemmy.zip 12 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

This is the first good writeup I've seen of the difference between chat control 1.0 and 2.0. unfortunately the article gets cut off by a paywall. Anyone have a full transcript or unpaywalled version?

[–] dragonlover@lemmy.zip 2 points 2 weeks ago

I literally use matrix voice for my d&d group every week lol, just join a server that has voice

Only thing I dislike is the lack of software based noise cancelling is a bit awkward but very managable

[–] dragonlover@lemmy.zip 4 points 2 weeks ago

I know, I've been seeing so many people get theirs I've been checking my email daily afraid I somehow lost the email telling me I can purchase now lol

[–] dragonlover@lemmy.zip 1 points 2 weeks ago

Tumblr etiquette. You converse in the tags to not fuck up the main post, so that others can reblog it without adding your commentary in. But sometimes the tags are really good and get screenshotted and added to the post chain

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