Drone Rights

It is well known that I was banned from Hexbear for this comment, among others:

"They" is a non gendering pronoun. If you use they/them, you'll never misgender anyone, but you'll also never gender anyone correctly either. Some people are okay with not being gendered and some people aren't. You should respect their wishes once you've heard them, but I don't believe you have any obligation to check them in advance.

Let's be clear about the meaning here. I stated, in the clearest terms possible, that you will not misgender me by calling me they/them.

@Outdoor_Catgirl@hexbear.net responds to me being called they/them with:

Let’s not misgender even enbyphobic weirdos.

Catgirl obiously thinks it's misgendering to call me they/them. In contradiction with my directly and famously stated pronoun preferences. What could possibly be more libshit than incorrectly correcting someone's pronouns? Catgirl seeks to align my understanding of my gender with her preferences, ignoring mine even while claiming to defend me. What a transphobic liberal.

@SexUnderSocialism@hexbear.net wants everyone to stop "fuelling" my "narcissism". Now, maybe Sex understands NPD. Maybe she's upset that I'm being abused with slurs and transphobia and knows that abuse exacerbates mental illness. But based on the wording, I think it's far more likely she buys into the ableist trope that the negative aspect of NPD is the grandiosity, and she thinks that by abusing me, Hexbear is feeding my ego. This is a very harmful trope used to abuse narcissists, and I would appreciate some clarification, Sex.

@BeamBrain@hexbear.net complains that they were called an ableist for their treatment of me when I first joined Hexbear. Now, I don't remember Beam Brain specifically, but I can assure you the only ableism I talked about was the slurs and stereotypes directed against narcissists. Beam Brain, are you upset that the rare and dwindling progressive elements on Hexbear called you an ableist for using slurs?

I can't tell if it was the admins of Hexbear or the mods of Neurodiverse who did this, but they removed a comment stating that people of my gender deserve the same rights as anyone else. If the Hexbear mods and admins think that trans acceptance is an "epic troll" and needs to be removed, then they are transphobes. Nobody who accepts trans people would be offended by seeing trans acceptance. But the Hexbear mods were.

@FuckyWucky@hexbear.net claims people with NPD have a tendency to be abusive. Although Fucky Wucky admits we can choose not to be abusive, they are still spreading a negative and dehumanising stereotype that has no clinical evidence.

@CommunistLady@lemmy.blahaj.zone has no activity on her four-month old profile, except for harassing me. She came to lib.lgbt to defend Blahaj and Hexbear's transphobia, and try to manipulate the admins while lying about doing so. Notably, they think a gay person's username being a joke about how gay they are is transphobia. Apparently being gay is offensive to these people. This is the typical Hexbearian behaviour pattern of calling a queer person's existence queerphobic, because Hexbear hates queerness that does not fall within the neat little lines of respectability politics and normativity.

Big thank you to @Veraticus@lib.lgbt for standing up for me and taking no bullshit. I have made a post on lemmy.blahaj.zone asking that this account which seems only to exist for harassment be banned. However I do not expect Ada to take action due to her previous transphobic comments and general acceptance of reactionary content on her site.

Some transphobes may complain that calling out transphobia directed at a specific individual is harassment. This is nonsense. If anyone is called out on this community, it is because they were making bigoted comments about a specific person. Because they were harassing someone. Opposing harassment is not harassment.

In terms of rules that people are expected to follow here, the rules are simple: If you've realised maybe hating someone for being trans is a bad idea and you're here to understand my admittedly difficult-to-understand political views, you are welcome. I know that leftist theory can be intimidating and it's okay to ask for help. But if you're here to be transphobic, homophobic, kinphobic, ableist, or otherwise bigoted, then coming to this space to spew forth your garbage is harassment, and you will be banned.

@barrbaric@hexbear.net and @kot@hexbear.net claim my brain is broken and I hate communists. So I'd like to say that I'm a communist. Specifically an anarchist, and more specifically than that a soulist. I believe in worker ownership of the means of production and the abolition of money, class, and state.

I accuse hexbear of pinkwashing because of all the transphobia and homophobia its users and admins direct at me on a regular basis. You shouldn't call your website queer-accepting if you do things like that.

While commenting on a thread mocking me, @SkingradGuard@hexbear.net called me a lib and complained I can't imagine anyone to the left of me existing. This is a ridiculous take, because my far-left views continually confused Hexbear users and provoked aggression while I was there. They believed my gender to be so niche it could only be the work of trolls making fun of queer people. And they disagreed heavily with my assertion "you shouldn't use slurs against mentally ill people". There's even someone saying I have the "being evil" mental disorder in that thread, as I discussed in another post.

The sheer hubris and ignorance it takes to call someone a lib who doesn't understand leftism, because they dislike a lib instance that called them a troll for being leftist, is astounding. This is a profoundly ignorant comment and truly encapsulates the arrogance and refusal to self-crit of Hexbear. They are the ones who do not understand far-left positions like "gender neutral pronouns exist" and "whiteness is a social construct" for which I was banned. For me to be further left than them can only mean I am a troll and a lib. Fucking shitlibs.

Oh, and calling a neurodivergent person insane. Because I guess we had to squeeze some ableism in there somehow.

@Orannis62@hexbear.net thinks I they/them people who don't use those pronouns. And then ze found a picture of me saying not to do that, because it's not correct gendering. I even said "you should respect their wishes once you've heard them. And having made this claim and found this picture where I said the opposite, ze then procceeded to brag about how ze was "right". Truly, the queer literacy level of Hexbear users is undergound.

A lemm.ee user commenting on Hexbear's thread devoted to me has accused me of wanting to see naked people. This is erasure of my asexual/nonbinary identity which doesn't have interest in the binary idea of sex or genitals. They accuse me of having a sexuality I do not in order to villify me.

Hexbear thinks that my other username, PM_ME_FAT_ENBIES is a chaser username. Why? Because nobody could ever have a genuine homosexual attraction to fellow fat enbies, since we're erased as a gender category and portrayed by society as unlovable. Hexbear users think nobody could genuinely be attracted to a fat person. They think it has to be fetishisation. They erase my nonbinary identity and call me binary, and then call me a chaser for being gay. Hexbear is fatphobic, transphobic, and homophobic to oppose my identification as a fat, trans, gay person, and to villify it.

@kristina@hexbear.net is a homophobe. Thank you @WithoutFurtherRelay@hexbear.net for being the voice of reason and pointing out the fact that gay people exist.

https://lemm.ee/comment/5172719

@Catradora_Stalinism@hexbear.net

You asked me to explain my comments to you.

They’re the Israel of lemmy instances

im really not even angry, this is fucking beautiful

like what does that even mean?

I recently watched an excellent video by John The Duncan about pinkwashing, pride, eurovision, and israel. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vjcCIuSlph4. This pattern of using so-called queer acceptance to legitimise a harmful institution spoke to me as an experience I've witnessed many times, with groups that claim progressivism while attacking narcissists and swarmgender people. Hexbear fits this mold. Now, so does Blahaj and to a lesser extent .world, but Hexbear is the one who proclaimed it to me so enthusiastically and then was so harassing towards me for my gender identity. Look in that original thread and see people accusing me of faking my gender. It's there.

Not surprising. Being trans feels a lot like being straight.

I hope they mean this in like a very very good way

Oh yes, I explained it right there in that comment. I struggled to realise I was trans until I was an adult, because I thought looking at a woman so you can pretend to be her was what heterosexuality was.

Grandma doesn’t have a gender and doesn’t realise why people who have genders think they’re important. She’d be equally happy identifying as a man and she doesn’t realise that’s unusual.

okay please explain to me what this means I legit am just ???ing at this right now

It was in reply to someone saying their relative (I assumed grandma) thinks people would actually transition to get an advantage in sports. I've seen this a lot of times, an older person from before trans rights who is obviously agender and just doesn't realise it, and thinks everyone else would be as comfortable changing their gender identity as they are.

Hexbear is transphobic. They harassed me the whole time I was there

I bet my life savings they were saying dumb libshit or discriminatory bullshit and high tailed it because they got rightly dunked for it

No, it was people constantly calling me a troll or wanting to debate me for having the name DroneRights, because they think drone genders are obviously made up and a conspiracy from the right wing to... promote leftist theory and be in a trans inclusive space?

Now that i’ve looked through, you could be right, because they have hexbear takes everywhere besides when they’re hating on hexbear, okay and some libshit about finding ‘unbiased leftist sources’

I was making fun of libshit, there. Someone linked me a news article which says boingboing.net isn't factual, because it's left wing. You know, the liberal trope that only centrism is unbiased. I turned it on its head and claimed only leftism is unbiased, while centrist news is biased center and conservative news is biased conservative. Fundamentally I believe that all perspectives are biased because of the limitations of our perspectives. I don't believe in objective truth. But it's funny to turn the libshit around and say leftism is unbiased. I certainly think leftist theory contains more clarity and less disinformation.

my real contention is finding out their posting on hexbear, what were they arguing about. Give it to us you nerd, I dare you!

I said gender neutral pronouns exist. Hexbear didn't like it. You can go in the modlog and see my comment.

Keep posting you crazy bastard, godspeed to you.

Okay.

Although they hated on she-ra out of nowhere once and it really hurt my feelings im still coping hard about that one

That show is monarchist. A bunch of queer monarchs team up to save the world and reinstate the monarchy. The first episode is about a child soldier who was brainwashed by the bad guys into thinking monarchs are evil. WHAT. Monarchs are evil. Silly show.

And you can't gender someone using a gender neutral pronoun. It's impossible. A gender neutral pronoun is the same thing as a non-gendering pronoun. That's why they/them is appropriate for people with neutral or mixed gender identities like agender, bigender, andogynous, and genderfluid people, provided the individual person prefers it. they/them is not a gender identity and stop saying it is to agender people. You're making them dysphoric.

Let's go through the hate in this comment step-by-step:

• NPD is not ASPD. This person is either woefully misinformed about us, or is deliberately trying to attack us by conflating us with another stigmatised mental disorder. And why comment about personality disorders if you don't even know what they are? ASPD is in a whole other cluster. It's either ignorance or hate.

• NPD is not a personality, it's a personality disorder. The difference being, not every narcissist is a mental clone with the same personality. That's so dehumanising!

• the literal personification of individualism WHAT. This absolutely reeks of those tankie conspiracy theories that narcissists are responsible for capitalism because we totally control the world since you're not allowed to blame it on the jews anymore. No, NPD has nothing to do with individualist ideology, in fact narcissists are capable of tremendous collective thinking, as evidenced by the fact that I'm fucking swarmgender and I mindmeld with my partners. This person took a look at the literal godsdamned hivemind and said "personification of individualism", because that's how much they hate narcissists.

• "is something that it believes shouldn’t be maligned" yes I believe mental disorders shouldn't be maligned. This is basic fucking leftism you libshit.

• "they don’t have the ability to understand what is problematic about their behavior" Infantilising and patronising. "Oh, narcissists don't have free will to choose good, they're inherently evil" Fuck the fuck off. Dehumanising as fuck. And completely medically wrong, because NPD as a disorder is initially CAUSED by being too aware of personal failings. That's why we need the grandiose personas.

• "the fact that it hurts others that makes it a pathology." completely misunderstanding the field of psychology I guess. Psychologist are DOCTORS. They help people who are HARMED by their disorders. There is no such thing as a hurting other people disorder. Psychologists deal in medicine, if you want to talk about morality go talk to a priest. Psychologists don't care about the morality of their patients because doctors are supposed to heal, not to judge. This is basic fucking intro to psych.

I commented on raven@hexbear.net 's comment recently, but screenshots aren't working on this sublemmy right now (maybe because it's new), so I'm gonna textpost it here:

raven [he/him] English 9 • I disagree with that. I never saw what I understood as a bad faith argument. It bordered on some things that might sound like reactionary points but I think it was just a little confused, maybe had a hard time explaining things on account of being neurodivergent and perhaps didn’t fully understand them in the first place. You just had to get deeeeeeep in the weeds with it to try to figure out what the fuck it was talking about. There were a lot of claims that things are a certain way, and then that thing being referenced out of context later elsewhere and you had to refer back to the whole history of the user to figure out what was going on. Maybe it needed a user to ride along and translate for it lol

combat_brandonism [they/them] English 12 • “If you use they/them…you’ll never gender someone correctly.”

Explain how that’s not reactionary.

raven [he/him] English 1 • I’m going to need the context there because that doesn’t sound like something dronerights would have said.

DroneRights [it/its] English 1 • I said it. It was in the context of using they/them who have clearly stated pronoun preferences that aren’t they/them.

Here’s the nuance: If you call someone who uses they/them they/them, then you are REFERRING to them correctly, but you’re not GENDERING them correctly, because you aren’t gendering them at all. You’re referring to them neutrally, which is the correct way to refer to someone who wants to be referred to neutrally.

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