Aotearoa / New Zealand: Tomorrow's Sideswipe, Today!

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/Sillyoldman88 on 2024-09-16 09:00:55+00:00.

Due to some medical shenanigans my mother isn't able to to remember whether she legally divorced my dad 27 odd years ago.

Is this the kinda thing you can just query with BD&M? Seems like an odd call, "hello, can you tell me if I'm married?".

So yeah, mostly a question as to how best she could find out if she's still legally married.

*a potential hurdle is that that we married in Os.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/Diligent_Ad651 on 2024-09-16 13:03:31+00:00.

I’m awake because I’m currently my dogs pillow and he is snoring peacefully beside me

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/Somebody_someone_83 on 2024-09-16 09:03:24+00:00.

We installed a nest wifi system (I think that’s the correct term) with the ability to restrict access during set periods. My partners youngest son (15m) is throwing a tantrum about being restricted after 11pm on a school night. I think this is too late personally. He’s a good kid. But he’s addicted to his PC and it’s affecting his schooling. What would you do in this situation?

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/Soannoying12 on 2024-09-16 05:47:24+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/dingoonline on 2024-09-16 08:11:34+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/throwaway1289046784 on 2024-09-16 07:22:36+00:00.

Posting under a throwaway for obvious reasons. When I was very small, I was sexually abused by a family member. I didn’t think anyone would believe me so never said anything until I was an adult. Therefore, there is no medical evidence or report.

I’m in therapy with the sensitive claims unit through ACC and I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD due to my experiences. I’ve never said anything else official or filed anything because the idea of a trial always scared me and I didn’t see a reason as I am no longer in contact with the abuser.

I also said nothing because several of my family members are in contact and on good terms with this person and I didn’t think, and still don’t think, I would be supported by many of the family and so don’t want to cause trouble.

However, my abuser is aware of what I’ve told some close people due to these family members he is still close with and claims that, since I’ve never actually filed anything, I therefore must be doing it for attention to defame him and there’s a chance he may sue me.

I need to know what my options are, as a woman on the benefit with no physical evidence (that I know of) of what’s been done to me, but who does have a diagnosis, in case something happens.

Am I going to go to jail?

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/underground_airways on 2024-09-16 06:57:53+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/Far_Jeweler40 on 2024-09-16 06:54:58+00:00.

I haven't seen any discussion. Is there a plan?

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/lucy_lilee on 2024-09-16 05:57:37+00:00.

To the person that just broke into my car at Pioneer recreation centre in Christchurch - you can keep my computer and my headphones, but please return my school stuff with the bag, I need this for school to pass my exams so if you’re somewhat of a decent human being please contact me to arrange return, if anyone knows any thing please contact me

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/MedicMoth on 2024-09-16 04:50:48+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/RickAstleyletmedown on 2024-09-16 03:39:03+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/Muter on 2024-09-16 02:55:02+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/DarkflowNZ on 2024-09-16 01:52:56+00:00.

Had a phone appointment booked for friday just gone at 1pm, they just never called. No missed calls, no texts, no emails, no letters. I call today and after an hour and a half they call me back and all the lady on the phone can tell me is that there's a note on the file saying "unsuccessful contact" (do bad programmers maintain the file lol? Be descriptive you muppets, comment your code) which normally means they tried to get through and couldn't. She also says they would have tried three times. My phone number on file is correct. All she could do is make me another appointment for next week. Obviously my calls get through to them, and their callbacks get through to me. Unless the case manager is on a different number and their number is being screened by my phone or network without notifying me at all, it's hard to feel that this is anything other than a lie meant to blame me for them being busy or useless or some combination thereof.

You'd think you could at least flick a text or email saying "sorry we're too busy to go through with your 5 min appointment we booked 2 weeks ago for you to declare money you absolutely could have and should have just hid"? I'm trying to do the right thing here and it's just been hurdle after hurdle man. I could have just taken my ronald mcdonald blood money and went and upgraded my pc and bought an exorbitantly priced, realistically warmed sex toy with elastic drip tray and life-like fluid reservoir action and just crossed my fingers that they never found out, but no.

To make matters worse I asked the lady on the phone if I was supposed to be holding on to the money until it's declared and she's like nope you're free to spend it. And so I ask, but there's a chance they reduce or cut my benefit by the amount given right? And she's like yep. So actually by "saving" it I'm breaking WINZ rules as I'm not allowed to save more than some arbitrary figure I think its $1k, but by spending it there's a very real risk I end up unable to pay my rent for 5.23 weeks (the amount of weeks my benefit would be cut by if it's 1:1). Now it would have been great if I'd been able to have my appointment, I could have stopped stressing about it 4 days ago and I'd be free and clear. Unfortunately my particular cocktail of mental illness means it's going to be another week or two of regular rumination on this whole situation and stressing that I'm going to be on the street.

Am I wrong for finding this infuriating? If I missed an appointment there'd be hell to pay. I've been being fucked around on this for weeks. If I could put the whole organisation "on orange" and have them come to my house to do an activity or lose their job and become homeless, that would be good. I can't even get mad at anyone because it's either not their fault or I'll lose my benefit. The lady on the phone was utterly no help but that's obviously not her fault, the file says what it says and she's not a case manager she's a call center operator. Having to wait hours to talk to her is just salt in the wound. I'd love to blow up at the case manager but I don't know who they are and obviously its not easy to get in contact with them lol. Plus you run the risk that they don't like your tone and suddenly you're homeless. Like what the fuck?

Anyway guess I just wanted to vent and see if anyone else had had this happen

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/BeardedCockwomble on 2024-09-16 01:31:45+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/homeostasisatwork on 2024-09-16 01:08:50+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/ViolatingBadgers on 2024-09-16 01:07:36+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/MedicMoth on 2024-09-16 00:52:26+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/BrotherCrazy459 on 2024-09-15 23:40:34+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/MedicMoth on 2024-09-15 22:06:50+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/Necessary-Cobbler881 on 2024-09-15 21:35:39+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/No_Scientist9788 on 2024-09-15 21:32:19+00:00.

I was out of work for a long time because of sickness and have now been only able to find a part time job. As a consequence I am 47 and only have $20,000.00. My partner is 55 and only has $30,000.00. I’m really worried that we might end up homeless. Is anyone else in the same situation?

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/Scared-Yellow-1957 on 2024-09-15 21:19:43+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/catchthelight on 2024-09-15 20:25:03+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/montyphyton on 2024-09-15 20:06:01+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/jackytheblade on 2024-09-15 19:34:26+00:00.