TLDR: IMO drag is an abusive troll, so I blocked them. IMO Grail is genuine (though terminally online), I haven't blocked Them yet but They def are close due to having some shitty beliefs on some things (narcissism, politically inactive queers, etc). Also a bonus paragraph about my gender identity because I felt it fit(? IDK I'm tired AF and rambling).

Personally I saw drag's online behaviour as abusive and trolling so they got my standard response to that kind of behaviour; reported and blocked. On one of my alts I encountered them advocating for someone's suicide, then I blocked them across all of my accounts instead of just my main. (Looking at the modlog for them should be enough to see their pattern of behaviour )

In terms of Grail on the other hand I don't respect Their claims of divinity because I'm staunchly atheist. It has nothing to do with Their gender and is purely about Their claims of being a goddess. Will I capitalize Their pronouns when I use them? Sure, if I remember to go back and edit them as my phone likes to auto correct them constantly. (Hell I was in the thread awhile back with them trying to help them come up with a method so that their preferences could easily be seen by others because they were throwing a fit about a mod "misgendering" them by not remembering to capitalize their pronouns (The Post))

In regards to my gender: frankly I don't give a damn. I don't have strong opinions about my gender and I present how I please, which wanders about the gender spectrum‡. Personally I feel that agender-genderfluid is basically my label in that regard. Just don't refer to me in a dehumanizing way and we'll be fine. I reflect that by not having pronouns in my bios or usernames.

‡ The gender spectrum itself is complex and multi-axial but that's the short and sweet of it.

IDK man, I'm just here to have a good time and not have to dodge abusive trolls and tip toe through the daisies for people who throw a fit when they get hit with my default way of referring to people (they/them).

Y'all are decent folk around here but I do feel there's a decent amount who need to step outside and touch grass (myself included)

[–] BluJay320@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

Interesting take. I haven’t seen any poor behavior from drag at any point and, unless I’ve missed something, drag seems to be a fine and well-contributing member of this community.

Grail, on the other hand, I have no doubt is a troll. Aside from their consistent behavior, they were heavily involved with mindtraveller (if anyone remembers them) who was also very clearly a troll. Granted, they may also just be heavily narcissistic. Regardless, I refuse to entertain claims of divinity. The assertion that someone must be referred to as a god/goddess/superior being of any form is an assault on my and others’ freedom of religion, spirituality, or lack thereof.

No individual is inherently above or below another, nor will I be intimidated into referring to them as such - be it by them, mods, or anyone else.

[–] zeezee@slrpnk.net 22 points 5 days ago (3 children)

drag seems to be a fine and well-contributing member of this community.

idk I can respect drag's neopronoun but I'd imagine drag would get much less hate if it wasn't for shit like this

[–] BluJay320@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

I don’t really see this as encouraging suicide. Drag explicitly stated that another option is preferable. Could’ve been worded better, sure, and it’s in very poor taste, but… I cant say I disagree…

Is nazis dying suddenly a bad thing now?

[–] pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Fuck, hadn't seen stuff like that. Opinion changed.

[–] chocosoldier@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

you, you're doing it right. behavior is not an excuse to knowingly misgender someone. everything else in this thread is beside the point.

[–] the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Wanting to fuck dragons isn't a gender. It's somewhere between kink and orientation.

[–] PeachyMcPeachface@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Banning the user above for anti-trans rhetoric. Explaining the position here because we're consistently repeating ourselves and it's exhausting.

Drag's user name is Dragon Rider. I would assume the neopronoun "Drag" is a shortening of Dragon but even if not bare with me... Pronouns exist to replace nouns. Our name (or in this case online, our username) is a proper noun. People rejecting pronouns in favor of just using their name isn't new. I don't know why the community is so upset about this. You are well within your opinion to not like people. Whatever, you're allowed to hate Drag as a person. Don't hate Drag because you dislike Drag's pronouns.

Even then, why tf do you care that someone wants to be called Drag? I don't care about alternate account's NAMES. We can't prove whether or not Drag has alt accounts and even then, why do you care? Care about Drag's actions.

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

The more I end up running into Grail the more they give me narcissist vibes. Especially their stance that "critising narcissism is actually a conservative view point"

Not to mention the amount of times they seem to find excuses to link back to their blog articles.

I'm not sure who mindtraveler was/is but looking at Grail's recent comment history, yeah I hadn't seen the worst of their behavior as we're, in general, in different parts of the site.

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