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this post was submitted on 22 Aug 2026
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Human bias. People tend to treat you favorably when you dress a bit nicely. You don't have to over-do it, but you also don't want to appear "rough". I've travelled both ways, and can tell you for a fact, you get hassled more if you look like you just rolled out of bed, as opposed to someone who's at least trying to look presentable.
You nailed it. When I wear a T-shirt and have my tattoos visible, security treat me like shit and I always get pulled aside for extra checks and drug swipes. If I wear a nice suit, I get smiles and no hassle.
Isn't strange, that not to be pulled aside for extra checks me, as woman, I have to look bad,not to be interesting for security, opening luggage ect, where males can check. If I come with nice dress and makeup, hair done, I am wwwaaaayyy likeli going to be stopped for extra check. Even if later female officer comes to check if I am bot bringing anything, males will stand and watch me during ... so, bunny tail, oversized t-shirt and something sloppy usually doesn't attract their attention.
I can't help but wonder: a test scenario missing here is what if you wear a boring ‘professional’ suit and hairdo like men do.
Of course, a case of a dude in a dress also remains to be checked.
Or a dude in more flamboyant menswear that isn't professional, but is definitely nicer