See, I get that this is a thing, but I don't understand why you just want someone to listen. What does sitting here, looking you in the eye and opening my ears, specifically do to make you feel better about the problem you're having?

[–] MickeySwitcherooney@lemmy.dbzer0.com 54 points 11 months ago (5 children)

Because humans are social creatures, and we like to know that other people understand our pain.

For example, I might complain that I got a bad review as an actor. What I need is for people to say "Fuck that critic!" and "That really sucks man." not "Have you tried taking classes to get better?" Sure, that's objectively the correct advice but it isn't what even the most logical human wants to hear when they're upset.

[–] walkercricket@sh.itjust.works 1 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Do men do that? I have the feeling it's exclusively women who do this, but the reasoning behind it could be as valid for women as for men. We're all human after all.

[–] tpyo@lemmy.world 27 points 11 months ago (1 children)

You've never heard a man complain about something?

[–] walkercricket@sh.itjust.works 1 points 11 months ago

Yes but generally, it's to find solution, not just to have someone listen and do nothing else. It's just a bonus I would say if the person listens as well.

[–] Baku@aussie.zone 10 points 11 months ago

I'm a man. Sometimes I just want people to listen. So I guess based on that alone, it can't be exclusively women

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