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Oh god, this kind of moral grandstanding is just cringeworthy, let alone as a false concern for others.
It screams "I need the approval of others or I feel bad about my genetics over which I have no control".
If someone doesn't like how I look, oh well, that's life. Seems this is a lesson most people learn in grade school - some people aren't going to like you, you're not going to like some people.
Further, if we're talking about physical attractiveness, that's something all over the place, and something over which we have no control.
Attraction isn't a choice - what you do about it is.
You're not entirely wrong, but you're also totally missing the fact that people are 100% judged by stature and not just in attractiveness, but in their value period.
The taller you are, the higher salary people will assume you already are making. During hiring, this means you'll be offered a higher starting salary to try and make the offer more appealing to you.
Here's an article that references the study I'm thinking of. https://merryformoney.com/height-salary/ If you care ,you can maybe dig up the original study somehow.
This sort of bias is pretty inescapable in our culture and will be I think regardless of our language. Preferred body shapes do change over time, even within the span of a single generation. Maybe tying more positive words around these words is part of that change.