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I see a lot of partnered people making some big compromises for various reasons...for the kids, for finances, because they are scared to be "alone".
At this point in my life with control over my own space and what I do, it would really have to take someone extraordinary to feel as though they were adding to my life rather than me making big sacrifices.
And honestly the thought of trying to date in the hope of that elusive someone feels like a very big gamble with poor odds. If you enjoyed dating and meeting new people, the process even though you don't win might be bearable, but I don't really care for it tbh.
@wscholermann @Seagoon_ Fatherhood means - after a while you prefer the crust. All relationships involve some form of compromise. It takes a lifetime to find a good one and maintain it. My marriage and family life is worth it. I see more material on throuples and other arrangements, but that stuff is for my kids gen to work out - looks like a lot more work