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[–] just_kitten@aussie.zone 13 points 2 months ago

I bought 200g of olives to make with pasta.

I got home and realised they were not pitted (they had been slit on the side - but seed still intact).

30 minutes of drudgery later I know I will not make that mistake again.

[–] danwritesbooks@aussie.zone 10 points 2 months ago (10 children)

It is a bit cliche, but I just bought myself a typewriter. I am ridiculously excited to get it.

[–] Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago (5 children)
[–] danwritesbooks@aussie.zone 5 points 2 months ago

This is exactly what I'm going to write first up.

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[–] underwatermagpies@aussie.zone 10 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Any cat people have advice on how to feed a cat wearing a cone? Poor Tommy had a bleedy toe and he's not allowed to lick it for three days.

He's currently walking into things and complaining, and looking sad.

[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (8 children)

A small plate raised up slightly should help cone-cat eat. You could also try hand feeding him (disposable gloves, for food safety and because cat food is gross).

If possible, try and find a plate and something to place it on that is smaller than the diameter of his cone, so he can get to it. May not even need to raise it, just use a small, flat plate. But raising it up will help if he's cone is large, he might not be able to reach it.

Edit: you could also try something entirely different, such as a sock repurposed to fit his leg, so he can't lick it, but wouldn't need the cone. You could try securing it with a scrunchy. You could also attach the repurposed sock to a body suit (I made one out of the leg of my old leggings), sew the sock onto one of the holes for his leg, and that way no cone, and less likely to come off.

You could also try vet wrap bandages, instead of a sock, it isn't adhesive to fur, just itself, and you could again secure it with a scrunchy.

I keep editing because now I'm going full mcgyver on this haha

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[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 10 points 2 months ago

Thank you everyone who replied to my query about puzzling fam behaviour.

All your insights were so good and helped me understand so much.

Thank you again. 😚😚😚

[–] wscholermann@aussie.zone 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I guess it was only a matter of time before false spring was going to end and I'd be putting the heater back on.

[–] just_kitten@aussie.zone 7 points 2 months ago

In true Melbourne fashion I was freezing in the morning, overheated on the drive home, now freezing again. Damned if I'll switch the heater on though, I'm having a shower and retiring to bed instead!

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 9 points 2 months ago (12 children)

ok, I need the collective wise mind of the dt to help explain this weird behaviour

my MIL insists on visiting her sick son in hospital every single day, sick son, my BIL, has had terrible cardiac disease which required many months in hospital

So MIL would visit every day. She's not a caring person, If someone is sick she says, "I don't like that you/they are sick. " She doesn't do any actual tending. She is narcissistic , diagnosed.

Her visits became a burden on the son and the doctors told her to stop coming as son needed undisturbed rest. She still went to visit.

I just can't figure what she got out of it. Why did she do it?

She impeded his recuperation. Her visiting usually meant no one else could visit as visiting was restricted. She complained about going.

If the goal was to make people think she was nice and caring it didn't work.

maybe she need reassurance from her son ( yes, that is fucked up )

I am at a loss as to why she did it.

[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 9 points 2 months ago (2 children)

It's narcissism, that's it. It isn't rational to us because we don't place ourselves at the centre of everyone else's universe.

It is important to her that she feels she is right and doing good. Doing something she thinks she is supposed to, against Drs orders, means she gets to feel like a victim, a bullied mother being forced to stop seeing her sick son. She did it because she gets validation about the whole ordeal.

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[–] Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance...

Attention-Seeking Behavior...

Lack of Empathy...

Exploiting Others...

Ticks a few NPD boxes there. Very rough on the BIL. Have a few in my fam and it's basically hitting your head against a brick wall :( Feel for you guys, not easy.

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 5 points 2 months ago

Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance…

So she is so important everyone must want her presence and she will bestow her presence on those she deems worthy ( or can exploit )

Her visit is more important than anyone else's. Does not matter to her other people couldn't visit

she know better than doctors or just doesn't care

[–] Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

My father was like this. It's to keep up a charade maybe. Both for herself and anyone that asks.

She can convince herself and others how much of a martyr she is. How much it impacts her to go everyday, but by God she goes anyway!

You get the idea.

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 5 points 2 months ago

She can convince herself

yes, I got a strong sense of this

[–] just_kitten@aussie.zone 8 points 2 months ago

Echoing others' remarks about narcissism. Some people have such a shallow perception of goodness that they feel they tick the Virtuous And Hardworking box through nakedly surface level actions. They cannot see how those actions might not actually be what the other person wanted. That's not a consideration. That might as well be particle physics, sure it's real and governs every aspect of our existence, but too much intricacy for day to day life

[–] Catfish@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

Surely BiL can ask for her to not be admitted? And Drs happily lie about things like not being eligible for organ donation if asked. Seems similar to me, no visitors (who are you) permitted

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[–] CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 5 points 2 months ago (10 children)

I am not wise but I'll give this a crack.

The Martyr - someone who tries to get sympathy from others when he or she has a problem or too much work, usually when that person caused the problem or chose to do the work himself or herself:

I would bet my arse she has told EVERYONE how she must visit her son because nobody else has. Poor me.

Secondly. She doesn't want to miss out on anything that is said by doctors or staff.

[–] imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 5 points 2 months ago

Yeah this is my vibe too. Sorry. That's super shitty behaviour

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[–] dumblederp@aussie.zone 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)
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[–] bull@aussie.zone 9 points 2 months ago (6 children)

I've finally installed a Lemmy app on the iPhone. Without an app I kept not coming here unless I was on a computer. I don't know which one is the best so I picked mlem which looks pretty decent so far.

Ding ding coming to you live from the 11 tram!

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[–] danwritesbooks@aussie.zone 9 points 2 months ago (8 children)

Arts Tasmania have writing awards open for submissions and I submitted 3 stories (2 of my kids horror and one unpublished one). The likelihood of winning is slim, but I can't help think about what winning might do for my bonafides. And then I start thinking about what I'd say as an acceptance speech.

I've always had that habit of thinking about everything that could happen if things turn out as desired (rarely ever do). It's something I wish I could do and then forget about until the time comes up.

Does anyone else do this though? Plan for something and then get excited/think about the possibilities? I feel like I jinx myself by doing it.

[–] TinyBreak@aussie.zone 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Does anyone else do this though? Plan for something and then get excited/think about the possibilities? I feel like I jinx myself by doing it.

yes. very much so.

Also we expect a call out in your acceptance speech. "and to the daily thread, who have always been there to support me" πŸ™ƒ

[–] danwritesbooks@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago

Lol. I will ensure to include you all.

[–] SpinMeAround@aussie.zone 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

First up: good luck!!! Put out positivity!!

Second: yessss, I am a shocker for it. My bf casually mentioned it'd be fun for us to do some streaming last night and sure enough, I was then in the shower thinking about how fun it would be to be a streamer with, like, hundreds of people in chat and interacting and what we might do. Urg. It is great fun being a dreamer though, I wouldn't change it!

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[–] RustyRaven@aussie.zone 8 points 2 months ago

I finally got the last document needed to complete my tax return today πŸ™‚ It is now complete, submitted and I just have to wait for my return πŸ’°

[–] Duenan@aussie.zone 8 points 2 months ago (6 children)

Finished work and was absolutely exhausted when I came home.

Had a wash and turned on the heater and fell asleep in bed for an hour and a half I think.

Tuesdays are so full on. Thankfully tomorrow will be a lot less eventful at work and I can focus on some light manual labor so to speak.

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[–] TinyBreak@aussie.zone 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

Oh this is almost too good to be true: scary shit

verification

If Nasa called you and said "We want to send you up, BUT we can only do it on a Boeing spacecraft" you'd say "No thanks!"

[–] mysticgreg@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

It's like the beginning of an Arthur C Clarke novel playing out in real life...

[–] TinyBreak@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

apparently its stopped doing it. But man i woulda sealed the hatch and used the arm to yeet that thing outta orbit faster than you can say 737 max 8.

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[–] danwritesbooks@aussie.zone 5 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I hope they have an inanimate carbon rod for protection.

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[–] underwatermagpies@aussie.zone 7 points 2 months ago

I am outside and I can just stand here without blowing away. I'm not even wearing concrete shoes. It's quite nice. So quiet.

[–] Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 7 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Alright. Experiment: running to the gym at lunchtime. Will I end up feeling good, or fucked beyond recognition?

I brought a towel so I can have a shower afterwards.

Let's see how it plays out.

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[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (13 children)

😭😭😭 😑😑😑

apple fucked up my music library, again, 😭😭😭

all the live albums, anything not bought with apple , all the special releases, everything moved to cloud which I do not use

fuck apple, so sick of them

this is why we buy cds and vinyl

I really am being a sook about this

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[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago

Morning everyone. The birds are tweeting and the sun is up. 🐦🎢🌞

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago

new achievement unlocked: The ability to give The Look over the phone.

^A lot of systems are offline in vic are we having issues gee boss I don't know why would a lot of systems be offline in victorian sites would you like me to tell you about the fucking rabbits lenny?^

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago

Good night everyone. Sweet dreams. 😘

[–] tombruzzo@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago (6 children)

Morning everyone. I remember seeing no rain on the forecast for today, but it can't get to warm today with how yesterday was, right?

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[–] Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago (6 children)

I really wish that fingernails and toenails weren't a thing. Thankyou for coming to my TED talk

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

overt menses

very few mammals have them

why us 😒 causes nothing but misery and anaemia

we don't need overt menses to have ovulation cycles and ready uterine walls

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[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 6 points 2 months ago

yay, I finished the display cabinet and loaded most of my shells. The biggest one, a baler from Western Australia couldn't even fit, and my boxes and books won't fit either. So in the big dresser they go

will get a better pic during the day , but this is it for now

spoiler

[–] RustyRaven@aussie.zone 5 points 2 months ago

Pakige day! My new kitchen sponges are on board for delivery. I'm pretty sure I bought more interesting things too, I just can't remember what.

[–] Dalek_Thal@aussie.zone 5 points 2 months ago (7 children)

Just me, or is the mobile network in the city kaput? Best I've been able to get is H+. Am on Telstra network

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