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oldie meme but needed to bring this back due to recent incidents 😭

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[–] frayedpickles@lemmy.cafe 5 points 2 months ago

Why do you think you're better than us?

[–] LordWiggle@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago (4 children)

So you're saying Twitter is better?

/jk

Sure, it happens here, but I feel the toxicity on Lemmy is far less then on Reddit or other platforms, and with toxicity I mean including people assuming you're saying something else because they are triggered somehow. But it's very hard not to stumble upon people like that. Trolls rule the universe, they are everywhere.

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[–] oshu@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I just ignore and block if it continues. I got no time for people who are responding to the voices in their head instead of what I'm actually writing.

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 months ago

Equally common, unfortunately, is people who don't state their point, they just lay out the pieces and expect you to put it together, but then if you say something bad about it suddenly that's "not what I said". Schrodinger's point.

I've developed a response to comments that do this saying-it-but-not-saying-it thing, and while I try to judge sincerity, there are false positives. An okay approach I've found is just to ask people to clarify: if they say something reasonable they're genuine, and if they dodge the question they're a troll or someone who doesn't want to admit they believe something bad.

[–] LifeLemons@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

I like cameras to capture picture

[–] Midnitte@beehaw.org 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

So you don't like artists?

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[–] YarHarSuperstar@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Wow, so you hate screenshots??!

[–] LifeLemons@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Oh so you love screenshots very much?

[–] Viking_Hippie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 months ago

Why doesn't @YarHarSuperstar@lemmy.world just MARRY screenshots if they like them so much?

[–] FabledAepitaph@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago (5 children)

Bruh, it's so real. I made a comment that whenever I get messed up food at a restaurant, id rather just ask for a refund than ask for a replacement. Obviously there's a lot of nuance in this comment, but I had people taking all kinds of meanings from it. One guy told me I was a complete asshole and some other stuff, just because I'd rather have a refund at the McDonald's instead of asking the overworked, underpaid employees to remake my order as I sat in the drive-through, and so I wouldn't have to pull over and wait even longer.

People just want to be pissed off and angry.

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 months ago

And some are just trolling, that sounds like you were trolled.

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[–] victorz@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Me when I talk to my wife...

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 3 points 2 months ago (3 children)
[–] victorz@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

It's okay 😁 we're both very open about, and aware of, this issue. So I just let her know it's happening and we giggle about it (sometimes). 😄

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[–] finitebanjo@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I think it can be important to see the intent behind words and ask for clarifications. Oftentimes people are not direct about their opinions.

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 2 points 2 months ago

yuh, totally! i even experienced an example of your counterexample recently https://lemmy.cafe/post/10752342/8934173

egg on my face, i guess i worded a meme so badly it gave 180 degrees the opposite impression (to some). was super thankful to this user for being transparent and helping me identify what part to edit.

[–] PugJesus@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

On the other hand, a failure to make assumptions about what someone is saying leads to people being able either to willfully misrepresent their positions ("Oh, I don't hate waffles, I just bring up how the world would be better without waffles in every conversation, no matter how tangential!") or unintentionally fail to see the necessary implications of their statements ("I'm not saying waffles are better, I'm just saying pancakes are worse!")

All language has some ambiguity, which necessitates assumption in communication.

[–] KingThrillgore@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 months ago (4 children)
[–] weeeeum@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Oh so you hate minorities too?

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