I'm in my 40s and married with a kid and I'll be the first to admit that I'm winging it. We're all just that same little kid we were but in an adult body trying to figure out the world. I did get called sir by a younger co-worker and I made them swear to never say it again. Just call me dude or something lol
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If it wasn’t for my passport - and some aches and pains - I’d still think I’m 15.
I stopped getting older after graduating college.
Depends on the point of view I'd say.
- I pay bills
- I deal with requirements and assumptions the society puts on me as a grown-up citizen who brings better tomorrow closer through hard work
- I deal with hardships of my life through thinking, writing about them, cooperation, diplomacy, listening and discussing even difficult topics - also within my relationships
- I embrace the consequences that my actions may bring
- I try to rationalize my thoughts of the world
- i try to be a decent example to kids and other folks
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- I'm goofy, playful and childlike (you should see my behavior with my girlfriend)!
- I enjoy small, "nonsense" things and they cheer me easily up
- I'm generally relaxed of life
- I get easily (over-)excited
- I am an energetic person
- People assume I'm younger via my habitus
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So I guess I am and am not, in certain ways.
I sure don't, constantly feel like I'm driving a car with feet that don't touch the pedals. Luckily I've got one hell of a community around me, and although the town's nickname is Shitshow USA we seem to make it work.
I don't. I'm 29 but I feel like I'm 18~19. Doesn't help that I still look like I'm in my early/mid-20s, so I can't even look in the mirror and remember my age.
Feeling like an actual adult is feeling the way you always have, but going to bed earlier and waking up with a pressing need to pee, but having to oil your joints like the tin man before you can move.
I feel called-out.
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I work in a school. I mostly talk like one and people bought it. The kids...they know...
I’ve always thought the measure of being an adult is when you being to like mustard.
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Funnily enough, I do feel like an adult, mostly because I've been aware enough for long enough that everyone else is making it up as they go, that I can sense when people are on their bullshit and navigate it pretty effectively.
Also I'm making a lot of decisions that will hopefully insulate me from the consequences of my inevitable failure, but I hold no delusions that the safety net will ever be perfect or even good, or that some arbitrary amount of austerity would have bought me a house at this point, so I don't starve myself of the little pleasures in the moment - today is the rainy day. I use my PTO, I get a little treat every once in a while, and I make myself as comfortable as I can. My life satisfaction has increased drastically with that in mind.
I am constantly doing things that make me feel more adult. Like at some point I will have done enough of these things to be an actual adult.
It's like the horizon of ignorance in science. The more you know, the more you know you don't know.
Define Adult.
My personal definition is "A child with responsibilities"
This means you don't have to feel like an adult to be one.
If you really look past the facade of humanity, that's really all we are.
And my definition of a teenager is really just "A hormonal child"
Lastly a manchild is "An adult that shirks and refuses to act like he has responsibilities, while also whining about them"
I feel like an adult. I'm in my 30s. But i got to make my own definition of adult. Really it's not so much not feeling like an adult, it's realizing none of the adults really know what they are doing.
Solid NO, I'm over 35 too...
i stopped growing at around 24 years of age