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I don't adore anyone, but I try not to think ill of people, either. The self is the lens we see the world through, so if we're always giving credence to the negative within us, that is what grows and what we see more of.

TIL that Cillian Murphy is the first looksmaxer

I'm having this when it comes to the movie Casablanca. Everyone is like "oh, what a timeless romance", and all I see is a bromance of two guys who won't let women go to safety with their families unless they sleep with them.

Oh shit you're gonna have a bad time, you can't say anything credible to warn people, and if they do something antisocial or whatever all you got is empty "told you so" based on vibes

Had a situation twice where one particular friend would antagonize other one (different people in both cases), and after some time rest of us would have that "oh!" moment, with that second friend no longer being a friend now.

As for myself - became good friends for almost 10 years now with a person who's first impression to me was not good to say the least.

all the fkn time

Yeah all the time, people are just dumb and willing to look past obvious red flags just because someone acts confident. I mean we literally have a name for those people "con man" short for "confidence man" a man who exhudes confidence while scamming people.

And yet, everyone just likes confidence even when it's an obvious narcissist pos and then two years later they're all crying to me "can you believe Geoff would do that?" And im like yeah it was pretty obvious and you guys kicked me out of your friend group so fuck you too.

Trust your gut

All the time.

Genetics, hormones, neuronal activity, personality disorders; all leave subtle traces on the face and behavior. Humanity is specialized to pick those clues up but some people are more sensible to it.

aka Sergeant Doakes syndrome

I don't think there's a singular bad vibe detector though. And even within a narrow type, there's still multihlevels of threat perception, often paired with expectations vs one's ability to handle it.

Like, some people have experienced trauma or other bad shit with certain things and get a bad vibe from some stuff, but not other stuff or situations.

And also imagine a manipulative person in a group of, let's say, ten people. Let's call them person M (for manipulator). Then there's person A and person B. Person A sees person M doing shitty stuff, but person A is way smarter than person M, and knows they (person A), is gonna shut down person M's behavior. And all of that just fits regular, casual conversation for person A, so they don't see it as really that "shitty", it's just an attempt for sway or favor or whatever.

But, person B sitting in the corner only has mild experience with person M's actions and classifies it as a "bad vibe" and doesn't know how to handle it very well, and so makes a mental note to poop in person M's food later.

Person A may be a 900 year old sith CEO and this just isn't an issue, whereas person B may be a 6 month old drooling wet nosed monkey. Both can notice, but they perceive and handle the situations VERY differently.

🌞 🌈 vibes~ 🌈 🎉