Nah, my wife will have to handle my loss, God willing. I've seen how grandmas and grandpas react to the passing of their better halves, women seem to handle it better. ๐คทโโ๏ธ
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yeah i expect to die alone. i have no close family, just relatives who kind of tolerate me but think I'm disturbed because I am not a Standard American Male. Also can't seem to find any romantic partners that last, just ones that hate me for not being a a doctor or finance bro of their dreams.
hopefully just drop dead one day in the woods doing what i love from a heart attack, and not wasting away mentally from alzheimers, which is my other most likely fate.
my grand parents died while sleeping. my dad died in a hospital choking to death from fluid in his lungs and heart failure, but not before letting me know what a disappoint I was to him. he was a piece of shit human being.
I would prefer not to die alone. Not only for the company in probably one of, if not the biggest, scariest, event in someone's life, but also because of the logistics. I'd hate to be going out, unable to move while laying on the kitchen floor, and desperately, deliriously, thirsty with 2 days worth of shit caked in my pants.
That said, if going alone seems to be the case, I'll try to arrange things in advance and face it with some degree of stoicism.
Probably...
I was just a kid when I read the Kurt Vonnegut story with the Ethical Suicide parlors.
You go in and a beautiful woman sits with you as you slowly pass.
Yeah I expect to die alone. I've had some romantic partners in the past, no kids, and one sibling with which I am on good terms with, but not particularly close. But by the time I die, it's very likely I'll have no one save for maybe a long distance friend or two.
Given the state of the world, I expect that if I am lucky/unlucky enough to reach my elder years (currently I am middle aged), I will experience worsening conditions as climate change and political turmoil makes resources more scarce and I become increasingly more feeble as my body and mind succumb to whatever fate has in store for me.
Long of the short of it is I don't expect my death to be quiet or peaceful. Whether somebody is there or not at the end doesn't really concern me. My legacy definitely doesn't concern me.
That said, I'm sad that it's likely I will have contributed jack shit to making this world a better place by the time I die (quite the opposite actually), and if there is a Hell, I won't be surprised that's where I'm going.