It surprises me too on some level because it does seem very obvious.
I've also learned on multiple occasions over the years that I value different things and I value them much more strongly than a large swath of the selfhosting community. That may speak to whether or not people selfhost for ideological, practical, or other reasons that I am unaware of but, at the end of the day, I find myself disappointed that the version of the selfhosting community that I imagined and thought I was on the same page with is simply not the selfhosting community that exists.