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Living in a world that doesn't feel like it's about to crumble.
Existing stress-free.
You can (probably) do that right now. You just have to give up on the idea of advancing any aspect of your life to do it. Related quote from the movie Fight Club: "it's only after you've lost everything, that you're free to do anything." I think about that line a lot, because it has both positive and negative implications.
I stress about maintaining my existing life, not advancing it...
Ya. Well that's why I added the 'probably'. Unfortunately sometimes maintaining a zero sum can be all the work of improvement without any of the benefit. Feels like furiously firing rocket engines just a hover in place. I've been there; still am in some regards. Best of luck to you.
Thanks! Best of luck to you too!
Retirement.
I want a 270° desk that I can fill with tech and several electrical outlets so I don't have to unplug things.
Own a house. I finally start making decent money and can save but it's nothing to what I would need for a mortgage. On top of that if I do finally bite I can't guarantee my income if I chnlange jobs which could be a thing. I just want to own and have a yard so I can get a dog. My shitty apparetment doesn't have space or commodities for it and rent keeps going up.
Small cider making business.
I know you're talking alcoholic cider, but you just brought back one of the few happy memories of my childhood. There used to be a small (nonalcoholic) apple cider making business relatively close to where I grew up. Every fall we'd compile a whole bunch of empty gallon jugs and make the drive over there. They had a giant keg of apple cider that they'd fill all the jugs from, and since I was just a kid the employees used to let me help them fill up the jugs. The smell of that place was absolute heaven. We'd leave with about 10 or 15 gallons of apple cider that we'd freeze for the rest of the year and a small jar of apple butter.
Actually both, there are some presses that just press your apples for some fee. So if I would have press why not make both.
A house, which runs on green energy with a big garden growing my own veggies and fruits. Mainly to save a shit tons of money in the long term, and because I love being close to nature, while still maintaining my modern life (internet, gadgets, modern living)
Cringe be damned, but I want to make a "proper" furry fursona. Maybe get some art, a vrchat model thing and maybe even a fursuit.
Cringe because furry. Based because you know what you want.
Threesome. Maybe it’s not all it’s hyped up to be but wouldn’t mind finding out
Definitely an unspoken bucket list thing for me. Having sex with 2 women at the same time would be a huge confidence boost I think.
I want to be able to live in a small place with a backyard facing woods, hills, or water. I want to be able to pay my bills with enough left over for some savings, some fun stuff, and maybe a short vacation once every year or two. I want to go hiking on the weekend and I want to sit on my back porch at night and drink tea while wrapped in a blanket and I want a gaming room with a big window so I can play games late at night looking up at the sky. Why are my dreams so unattainable?
I'd like to have enough money to get a few medical issues I'm concerned about looked at.
The real American Dream
Really like to make my dream videogame. If Eric Barone can do it so can I.
Good luck! I tried that a decade ago, biggest gamble i've ever made, not working out, maybe you can succeed with so much resource out there!
Good work-life balance.
In my experience, the only way this is actually possible is to do away with one or the other.
Someday I want to actually learn to play all the instruments I have. I can do a little on most of them, but not at any kind of decent level.
I feel you. What instruments do you have? What instruments do you wish you had?
I'm a drummer primarily, drums are the one I can kinda play. I also have a guitar I suck at, a bass I suck worse at, a violin I probably don't remember how to play at all at this point, and a flute and a keyboard I'm just atrocious with.
I kinda wish I had a harp and a trumpet too, but I know there's no chance I'd actually find the time and energy learn them.
I think it is more important that you cared for them enough to try. Most people don't even give it a shot. In an ideal world we would have enough time to learn to play, at least for self satisfaction.
Among the few instruments I have, I feel most proud about assembling what is called Jaltarang. I've been able to get a full octave plus half on each side which enables me to play few tunes. I suck hard at it too but just the act of setting it up and getting it in tune is satisfying on its own.
If you are curious about how it sounds when played by someone good at it, watch this.
I want to be known for the things I create. Comedy, acting, and books, mainly. I want to be able to share all the love I have with people that won't abuse me or my trust. I want to visit all the wildest and most different parts of the world. I want to find success enough that I can give back to the community in a big way. I guess since these are dreams I might as well say in which way I want to give back to the community. I want to found Star Fleet Academy. I want a school whose purpose is to train and develop the future of humanity as it grasps for the stars.
Get enough money to not have to stress about my family's health
The three V:s we have in Sweden:
- Villa
- Volvo
- Vovve
Despite also being a Swede, for my personal reasons I'm altering at least the two first ones - a house is way too much of a maintenance hassle, at the most I could maybe consider a rowhouse, but otherwise I'm sticking to apartments.
Cars are a losing prospect as well in my book so I've changed that part to a bicycle (and good transit access).
I may yet consider getting a dog, though. We'll see.
I want to drive a lap on the Top Gear test track
I know it's the other side of the planet, but Australia has a Great Race our Supercars compete in every year in October. It's the Bathurst 1000 which is about 2 hours west of Sydney.
It's one of the tracks the Supercars race a which is a public road most of the year so you can drive a lap in a stock car (with 60kph limit).
I dream of a world where I believe problems will be resolved to the benefit of everyone and I don't have to worry about my family's financial wellbeing
Might be a little cliche but 20million dollary doos
I wanna understand how the universe functions on both a macro and micro scale.
I'd really like to know what it's like to be normal. Like, to be able to look and my life and say, "wow! I'm a perfectly functional, capable adult with a stable life. That's great."
Mostly, I guess I mean having a neurotypical brain, but I don't know if that's a hard requirement. I'd like to be able to socialize properly. I'd like to be able to go out and engage with people without my social battery being dead within 10 minutes, or without my anxiety of other people scaring me off from the thought of interacting with a stranger altogether.
I'd like to live somewhere with things to do and a way to easily access those things. I'd like to live somewhere where I'm not terrified to go outside, because it would mean having to risk my life behind the wheel of a car, or pay a ton of money I don't have for a stranger to drive me where I want to go. I'd like to be able to fearlessly walk out my door and explore the world around me instead of hiding from it.
I'd like to know how to be able to do the things you're supposed to do to have a full, well-adjusted life. I'd like to be able to live that life without having to combat a mountain of anxiety before every meeting or appointment. Logically, I know things will be fine, but when every other part of my brain screams that everything will go catastrophically wrong, it's hard to ignore. I'd like to not shake, or be nauseous, or feel like I'm gonna shit my guts out before every little thing I have to do that isn't sitting at home. I'd like to just be able to go do those things, and not worry about it.
I don't know. There's probably more, but these are what I can think of for right now.
When I was a kid, all the way up to when I was a young adult, I used to adore being quirky and unique. It was my identity, and I loved it about myself. I just wasn't tired yet.
I turn 33 next month, and, honestly, all I want is to be normal.
Eat the food I like everyday!
Distributed desktop computer. I just want to have all of my systems to seemlessly flow between each others.
Earn enough money from Photography to make a living.
Walk into a random cafe some time and find one of my photos is on their wall.
Early retirement and eternal life, perhaps. These are both probably out of reach - not to mention incompatible - but who knows.
Transitioning by simply snapping my fingers... dreams gonna be dreams I guess. Still would like to fulfil it tho ^^
Experience extreme longevity (in good health ofc), there are so many things I haven't learnt or mastered yet!