The basic rule of thumb is that anyone who gets upset with you using the word female isn't worth your time. If they're really going to get upset about you using the word female then they're probably going to get upset about a lot of other trivial things as well and that's not the sort of negativity and bitterness you want in your life.
this post was submitted on 11 Mar 2024
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It's as offensive as "black" is. If you call someone female that's fine. If you call someone a female, you're going to look like an incel.
Itβs dehumanizing.
Like when the cops are on the lookout for a six foot white male, itβs okay because cops dehumanize their suspects as a matter of course.
My daughter can be pretty offensive. Quite the potty mouth for an 8 year old.
Female as an adjective is inoffensive everywhere, but you will run into problems in some contexts because its definition is currently in flux and different people will mean different things by it.
Female as a noun has the same changing definition deal, and also some online misogynists use it as a pejorative. It isn't one, but they use it as one. As a corollary, some others on the internet have chosen to be offended by the term.
Not with proper hygiene.