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Sorry for the potentially controversial question: is it normal for less attractive people to settle down with partners they don't find physically attractive? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 months ago by RebiJes@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Some women do it for social status, absolutely - some men do too. Others do it for money, or fame, or because they have a nice house...

That is certainly not the norm and your suggestion that it is the norm and it is specifically for women is why you're being downvoted (at least, IMO).

I actually agree with a portion of the rest of your comment that beauty isn't that important... physical attraction is one facet of attraction and I'd argue it isn't even a particularly major one.

[–] TheBigBrother@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

I think you're right, it may sound a bit strange from that point of view, I forgot to mention that 98% of men also function the same, although I must clarify that I am referring to a generality and not to a totality, meaning that there are exceptions.