You're definitely right that society needs to do a better job with this. Calling men toxic and joking about their inadequacy might make the person speaking feel better about themselves but it's not going to help society at all because that kind of talk is what pushes more and more boys into the arms of the Tate's of the world.

[–] KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 month ago

i think even this line of discussion is partially reductive on a fundamental level. It's an important one to have so i don't want to discount it here, but i think it's probably more important that we focus on the issue specifically rather than how what we're currently doing is bad and how it could possibly be negatively influential. Is pretty redundant when we all know that it's just not going to do what we need it to be doing.

Granted some people won't know that, and that's why we're talking about it now, but i feel like it's just such an easy conversation to have comparatively to this one. I'm surprised that this isn't a more regular topic of discussion, though i guess people probably dont think very hard about it.