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I guess it's another way of asking, "What event in your life had to most effective impact?"

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[–] henfredemars@infosec.pub 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Your experience reminds me of my attitude towards friends. I have become a hermit because my trust in other people has been ruined. I don’t even desire having friends anymore.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 11 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I have about five friends I trust implicitly.

I have hundreds of acquaintances I'm around for various reasons, and I like them, but I keep them all at arms length.

I have everything I need.

[–] TexasDrunk@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Same here, and for approximately the same reason (I left her because of the broken trust, she tried to get me back with a plan to fuck with me but I was already too fucked up over it).

It wasn't my final relationship, but I'll die alone and pretty happy. I have a couple of people that I actually trust and, same as you, a butt load of acquaintances that I enjoy being around. I generally use "friend" as shorthand for those people, but they'll never really know me.

I'm very up front about relationships having a shelf life.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

Same.

When I get lonely, Tinder's a thing. We both go into it knowing it's short-term, and it's cool.