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My niece and nephew ended up in the system and I felt morally obligated to put my life on pause and help my parents get them adopted and taking care of them. I couldn't even move back into the house as each child required their own room so for the past year I've been living in a tent in their back yard. The whole ordeal has been emotionally taxing, but also kind of rewarding in weird ways I didn't expect.
In terms of the kids, its nice to be able to positively influence their lives and show them the kindness, love, and guidance I wish I had. When I make them laugh or they express gratitude It makes me feel like my existence wasn't a complete waste.
In terms of living in a tent? I came to love it. It taught me to overcome many issues and made me much more resiliant. To better understand the difference between convinence and necessity. Most of the things you think you need, you really don't.
From the basic survival stuff like adjusting to the climate, to building my own solar system, to learning how to clean myself and use the bathroom without running water. I minimized my entire lifestyle, let go of all the useless trinkets I thought I needed, and found the true basics of what a person really needs to be comfortable.
I also learned how to confront my fears of what other people think of me for daring to live an alternative lifestyle in their view.
I feel so mentally different from the person I was a year ago. More capable and confident. I feel like I can do anything, be anyone, go anywhere. I feel kind of great about myself and my situation in life. I feel like I'm an okay person living a genuine authentic life. Helping out my family while getting myself figured out.
Also given the current housing and renting market, I can't help but feel like I've figured out a cheat code. "Affordable housing? That converted out car looks good enough to me. "
I dont think things would have gone this way had the kids not ended up in the system.