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what messaging app do you use? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by chrizbie to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So here's the thing, every time I try to move away from Facebook messenger I run into the same problem, nobody else in my friends or family actually want to use a secure, private messenger app like signal or telegram, my wife, my parents, my in-laws, my friends they're ALL on Facebook and they will never take signal seriously enough to actually use it, it really bums me out that there are these far superior options but without anyone else using them they're pointless..

Anyway what apps do you use to stay in touch with people?

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[–] TheEntity@kbin.social 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

It might not work for everyone, but my general advice is to go cold turkey. Inform your relatives that from now on they can contact you on Signal and then stop using FB. If they value keeping in touch with you, they will follow.

[–] CoggyMcFee@lemmy.world 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

Meanwhile the relatives are potentially thinking “well I guess he doesn’t value keeping in touch with me”.

[–] Black_Gulaman@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago

Yeah, they'll just go.

Hey brother 1, please tell your hermit brother OP that we have a get together next week. 9pm, bring beer ok.

[–] TheEntity@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

That's exactly my point: let's invert the scenario as there is no reason why we should be the ones compromising. The only objective difference is the privacy of the chosen application. Even if this would be equal too, we have just a much right to demand a specific protocol as they do.

[–] Mubelotix@jlai.lu 2 points 1 year ago

Yes but they would be wrong. Because they would be asking you to sacrifice your privacy for them, while you are only asking them for 30MB on their phones to install Signal

[–] BackStabbath@lemm.ee 10 points 1 year ago

I could never do that lol. I barely care enough to talk to people and even I'd feel a little alone/I don't like inconveniencing people. I do use Telegram for some people, but Signal is just used by nobody I know.