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[–] Kalysta@lemm.ee 29 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Pretty sure being in a long term relationship means you’ve moved on from small talk a long time ago.

I don’t want to talk with my wife about the weather, we have more important shit to worry about unless we’re literally having to dodge a tornado.

Small talk is for strangers.

[–] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yup. And if we don't have anything more important to talk about, we'll just cuddle. Silence is absolutely fine with people you're comfortable with.

[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Huh.

Wife and I talk ALL the time about anything and everything, be it the weather, how weather works, of free will exists, the kids, if kids exists, you name it...

[–] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Maybe you're both extroverts?

We're both introverts, so we're totally comfortable just sitting next to each other reading different books, or cuddling on a cold winter night. Sometimes we talk about random stuff, but quite often we're exhausted from dealing with other people but still want that proximity.

[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 2 points 3 weeks ago

She's extroverted as hell, I'm introverted as hell. Put together though, we talk like there is no tomorrow

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 6 points 1 month ago (3 children)

If you went outside and the weather was pleasant you'd never mention it to your wife? Never say anything like "have you been outside? It's so nice today!"

[–] Strawberry@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Genuine appreciation for the weather enough to declare it to those around you isn't small talk. Small talk is generic filler dialogue you do as a formality.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 3 points 1 month ago

If you're being that reductive about the definition of small talk then I don't think small talk exists between couples who have known each other for a long time because you're just regular talking.

[–] dunidane@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 1 month ago

Or from what this post is even if people are missing it just asking how their day was.