Force can only legally be used against imminent threats. (This, BTW, is why women tend to get convicted of murder when they kill their abusive partners; they tend to do it at a time when their partner is not harming them.) Even if you are positive that someone intends you great bodily harm or death, you can not use force legally until the moment arrives when they are trying to cause that harm. You can not pre-emptively self-defend.

If you use lethal force in the absence of an imminent, immediate threat of great bodily harm or death, it is highly likely that you would be arrested, charged, and convicted.

[–] absentbird@lemm.ee 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Indeed Inspector HelixDab, that is the letter of the law.

That said, anyone who says that to a woman deserves to have their balls kicked it, regardless of the legality. Laws are largely written to maintain order and uphold the status quo, they are not a divine tool for determining morality or justice; Rosa Parks broke the law by sitting in a part of the bus reserved for white people, but in retrospect that was a vital act of resistance.

Tolerance of patriarchal domination does not make for a more just society, it only makes things worse. Knee those balls if you can get away with it.

[–] HelixDab2@lemm.ee 4 points 1 week ago

Knee those balls if you can get away with it.

And that's the real trick. You might be able to get away with it, if they're embarrassed to have been taken down by a woman. But since it's probably a person that's known to the woman (this isn't really something that even the worst people would just randomly say to someone on the street, I don't think), the man might come back with intent to actually cause immediate harm. Or might call the cops, and then you're right back to potentially getting arrested.

Yeah, I agree 1000%, the people doing this deserve violence. But 'deserving' something doesn't mean that the law won't come down on you like a ton of bricks. It's frustrating as shit.

[–] the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 week ago

That said, anyone who says that to a woman deserves to have their balls kicked it, regardless of the legality.

Who benefits from the woman doing time for assault? Not her, that's for sure.