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Why can't it be a real question?
The same reason mine can't; because I didn't care to phrase it as such. If I were actually interested in starting a dialogue, I wouldn't have phrased the last line of my parent comment the way I did. I would have asked the question in a neutral or positive tone to show the reader that I'm not attacking their position, explicitly or implicitly.
"People that XYZ, why?"
This phrasing is automatically othering anyone that would be able to respond. Without any other context, it can easily be interpreted with more hostility, especially online.
"What are the benefits of using motion blur?"
This phrasing puts no implicit judgment on the person, and instead seeks to find positive attributes of the subject in question. Any bias that can be inferred is positive.
While I concede that op certainly could have asked the question in genuine earnest, my time on the Internet has taught me that the likelihood of that is far less likely than that of op asking a sarcastic question.
It's something that I really dislike on the internet.
We lose a lot of cues because writing and empathy due to not being in same physical space. In the end we tend to assume the worst about each other and react much more agressively.
Imho it's kinda similar to how road rage or videogame flaming work.
quick edit: I agree that OP's question could be loaded otoh not that we assume it is with such a limited context.