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[–] interrobang@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

I have an adorable little polycule!

I'm a married adult in my 30s, my wife and I are polyamorous and we both have partners that are also partnered to each other.

I get to have pretty fantastic sex quite a lot lol I'm super happy but I can't really discuss much in my daily life. But it's pretty great

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

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were you and your wife always poly or did one of you just go for it and the other followed along?

[–] interrobang@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago

Lmao thank you

My wife was poly when we first met, and I was new to it. We were monogamous for several years while we figured out how to be married successfully.

A few years later, my wife made a friend online that was married and poly, and her life was just really similar to what we were looking for. Lots of friends, strong bonds, mutual support, and spicy sex lol.

She and my wife dated for a while long-distance, and we actually moved somewhere both closer to her and with a larger poly community. It didn't work out for them, but wife & i both liked how it felt to be poly together.

I met my other partner thru my wife's ex, lol. My girlfriend has a FWB type thing with wifeys ex, and we hit it off really well right away. Wife met her other partner and we are all, ahem, compatable!

When that tv show about the Mormon guy with lots of wives came on, they made a point to specify that they do NOT all have sex together, and I was always like.... why tf not!? (I know, I know, mormons, but c'mon)

[–] CmdrShepard42@lemm.ee 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

What are anniversaries and Christmases like? I struggle to find meaningful gifts and having to buy so many extra would wreck me.

[–] interrobang@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 weeks ago

You know, none of us are very good at that stuff tbh. Gifts are fun but not really expected for anniversary occasions between us.

We like making & thrifting stuff for each other for holidays, cooking fancy, stuff like that.