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This guy told me wife he was suicidal and my wife said to call her if he ever felt like that. So he started calling her all the time over the most petty non emergencies. Also he would tell her how he thought they were soul mates. Bear in mind, this isn't one of those "my now wife" stories, we were married. Not that it makes okay otherwise. The two of us were at his place for his birthday and I had gotten too drunk. I go to the bathroom thinking I'm going to throw up. Turns out he tried to make out with her while I was gone. That was basically the last straw. We didn't immediately cut him out after that but that was when we seriously began considering it.
It took so long because we were younger and more naive but also because he is super nice. He's the only person I've dealt with that is so nice and polite but also so toxic. He was so pathetic. He would just use his sadness to try and get everyone to give him more attention.
So we ghosted him. Just stopped asking for him to hang out and made excuses as to why we couldn't. Then just stopped reaching out. I don't feel bad about it either because he's used the threat of suicide to keep people close and gain attention before.
Got to drunk or got your drink spiked?
As much as I don't like the guy, I genuinely don't believe he'd do that. Basically the three of us ordered a pitcher of margaritas, maybe two, I don't remember. There never would've been a moment he was alone with my drink that he wasn't in front of my wife. It feels weird to defend someone I have a low opinion of, but no, I really don't believe he did or would have.
Yeah, I figured it likely there wasn't an opportunity.
The story made me curious if the guy created an opportunity was all.
Suicidal tendencies tend to throw a wrench into things...
Makes a hard situation much more difficult.