i do not believe these words should be abandoned!
my intent is to point out and critique society’s weaponization of words, not the words themselves.
also! this is a descriptive post, not perscriptive
what that means is just that i want ppl to be aware that this pattern has happened in the past and of course the forces behind those happenings haven’t just disappeared. i think pride in being ND and the fact that “neurodiverse” is a word that is created by its own community are powerful reasons to doubt that the word will have the same fate. perhaps i would call this a “call to awareness” post rather than a call to action.
(making this disclaimer because a couple people are violently adamant that i am just trying to make an argument saying all these words are the same and predicting the future, which, sorry you got that impression it’s not true. but now you know!)
One of these things is not like the others.
I can see the argument how there could have been an attempt to reclaim it, much like the n-slur, f-slur, or queer. Not sure if there was actually an attempt or not to reclaim, just to be clear.
The difference is that Something like Retarded is used by someone else, someone who isn't like that person. It was a clinical term used by clinical people who would never know and could never know the feeling. That is to say it wasn't great to begin with. People who were "retarded" weren't embracing that for what they were, it was imposed upon them by medical professionals who don't really understand them as people (many were studying them like specimens). It was primed for derogatory use.
Neurodivergent on the other hand is a term embraced by the community, it's used as a self-identifier. It doesn't have the same oppressive connotations the others did. To turn it into a slur would be like turning transgender into a slur. It won't work because the group identifies as that, and will keep using it.
Same could be argued with n-slur and f-slur. Those were not terms chosen by those groups. Both were created by the socio-economic dominating class in an attempt to dehumanize. That's the whole point of the word "reclaiming" that I used. Takes the power back. There's a user above (kitten for the sake of reference) who is Autistic and uses the R-Slur. I'm autistic as well but I don't use it. For kitten, I'm sure there is power in taking the word away from people to apply to themselves.