So how about maybe not judging the whole of a thing on those that claim to align with it- yet show no similarities to it.

Maybe if the people who are pro-equality shouldn't grasp onto their gendered term so hard. Kinda weird that out of one side of their mouths so many people will say it's about equality for all but insist we must use the feminine term over the genderless one we already have

Don't want to be judged on gender lines? Don't use gendered terms to describe yourself, simple

I won't get into the rest of the stuff in this thread, but I'll disagree with your first point.

Feminism is a word. An English word. And that means it's definition is driven by common usage not a book. If the common usage shifts to a toxic place, the meaning shifts with it.

If you disagree I'd love to hear your gymnastics around the word invcel, it's evolution into incel, and then that further extension to femcel (even though the person who coined invcel was a woman).