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How to deal with Mom who CANNOT learn how to use a password manager, but demands I "fix it" (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 days ago by weeeeum@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I've become the tech guy, and family are extremely entitled to my services. My mom especially. BTW I can't cut her out, because I still live with her and she EXPECTS me to fix anything computer related. She won't take no for an answer.

I've tried to keep track of her passwords with a password manager, I've spent literally 8 hours in a single day filling out captchas and replacing passwords, and I've spent even more time trying to teach my mom how to use the manager.

She CAN'T learn it, and always makes a new password, which she doesnt keep track of and expects me to fix it. What the hell do it do? She uses firefox, with auto refill on, but it doesn't autofill on her iphone.

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[–] sp3tr4l@lemmy.zip 17 points 1 day ago

I had the feeling man (don't know your gender but I mean it as a term of solidarity)...

I had the feeling that your situation was significantly worse than just IT problems.

I've managed to be in basically the situation you are in, once with a family member, another time with a partner.

Definitely look into how the formal process for being declared her caretaker works in your state/county.

Theres a good chance that there's some kind of non profit group in your county, or pro bono lawyer or some kind of legitimate body that can help you through the particulars of how that works.

Definitely get as many relevant, official 'i am her caretaker' statuses and/or required evidence of such lined up before you try to start with the power of attorney stuff.

Getting durable power of attorney / living will / whatever your particular locale calls it, that'll be much easier if you are already her caretaker.

... But yeah.

You're not screaming into the void on this one...

I hear you.

Don't try to do a million things at once, don't completely do a 180 overnight and start bossing her around right off the bat... take the time to move through all the red tape correctly.

3, full, deep breaths, all the way in, hold for 20 seconds, all the way out.

I'd give you a hug if I could.