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[-] peanuts4life@lemmy.blahaj.zone 46 points 2 years ago

I hate that this is satire but also pretty much true. Men are not generally socialized to recognize uncomplicated, unsexual fondness for a woman.

[-] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 48 points 2 years ago

I'm not sure I'm even capable of not wanting to sleep with a woman that I get along well with. Like, I don't ACT on those feelings so as not to fuck up good friendship but they are there.

[-] Zetta@mander.xyz 13 points 2 years ago

It's okay to feel like that, you just need to be in control of your actions and in your case you are! So good job

[-] peanuts4life@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 years ago

Thanks for sharing. I definitely find people far more attractive once I get to know them than as strangers.

[-] iknowitwheniseeit@lemmynsfw.com 4 points 2 years ago

This is basically the plot of When Harry Met Sally.

[-] MothmanDelorian@lemmy.world 7 points 2 years ago

On the flipside it was very difficult as a nerdy nice guy to get some women to understand that when I said lets do x I really meant as friends because not everyone is actually sexually interested in you. Sometimes I just wanted to see a movie with someone I thought was a friend

[-] peanuts4life@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 years ago

Yeah! It's an intersectional, social issue. I've had just a couple woman adamantly insist to me that men could not be friends with women, in a completely platonic way.

I think they are wrong, in an absolute sense, but in popular Western society, they are right 8 times out of 10.

[-] gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 2 years ago

But... You're a nerd and I'm like... Kinda pretty? Shouldn't you want to fuck my brains out and this is a trap?

Goddamnit Laura I get that you're a 6.5/10 and yes I think you're pretty but also we both like the same obscure RPG and I just want someone to understand some of my fucking jokes holy shiiiiiiit

[-] MothmanDelorian@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago

More like" I get that most guys are asking you to the movies because they want to make out but I want to see and talk about this movie with you because Im interested in what you think and Im not interested in dating you". Sometimes the juice isn't worth the squeeze, you know?

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago

The thing about socialization is that it's ongoing throughout life. A guy having male friends who can tell him "idk bro sounds like platonic affection" can help him learn even as an adult

[-] peanuts4life@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 years ago

I very much agree. I had to be told this, myself, before I really understood that I'd allowed a toxic sort of personality trait to cultivate.

[-] Overshoot2648@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago

Eh, I'm just aplatonic. I don't get anything from friendship and I generally don't understand it. It makes it very difficult to date.

[-] peanuts4life@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago

Do you mean aplotinic with promising sexual partners (presumably women)? or, are you generally aplotinic, as in you lack interest in friendships with anyone?

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