Ask Lemmy

My father physically and mentally abused me to the point that when I talked to friends I thought it was normal to ask how hard their beatings were for a particular infraction. My best friend reported him to CPS without telling me and he stopped putting his hands on me around age 14 (my mother would yell at him and tell him she didn’t want to go to jail, or him). I thought parents who didn’t beat their children were the most liberal parents imaginable. At my age 20 when I was home visiting from college, he nearly killed me and my mother via trying to flip the car into a ditch on the passenger side where we were both sitting because she let my younger sister drive his car on a joyride. I got into financial troubles after college and had to move back in with him. At my age 25 he got plastered drunk one night and voilently raped my mother in our trailer. Next morning I confronted him about it when he was stone cold sober and he grabbed me by neck and got in my face telling me to stay out of it or else he’d kill me. When I moved out, I didn’t feel “free” until I was in my mid 20s.

He’s about to inherit half my grandmother’s 700K house. He’s openly said he’s taking my mother’s inheritance too.

I have been told I’ll inherit 50K from my grandmother, but that’s not guaranteed because if my grandmother finds out I’m gay I most certainly get nothing.