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This is a minor mistake I made today but thinking back on life, sometimes moving forwards can really suck. My friends and I had a conversation recently and I asked wanting no real answer "how can I be less cringe".
Fortunately or unfortunately my friend replied with "You can't; because that's how you learn". Sometimes I hate it but I gotta agree with what she said. The feeling of cringe is brutal.
Ultimately, it's the only way to learn and grow. I'd say we should be more welcoming towards making mistakes. It often means someone left their comfort zone and is trying to achieve something. The only way to avoid risks altogether, is to stay passive and not even try.
I'd say we own our mistakes. “There are no mistakes, only lessons” would be the Instagram quote for smaller ones. Sure, it's difficult to deal with cringe. Or big mistakes. But no one is perfect. And I've learned pretty much anything in my life, like for example computer programming by doing things. And oftentimes I learned how not to do something. I've generally made lots of mistakes over years. And that makes me who I am now. And I still make mistakes, because I learn new things all the time. Same thing applies if you're a handyman or whatever. You need experience with the real world to become wise and good at something.
And if you want to go all the way concerning mistakes, maybe look at airplane pilots. They have a whole culture around making mistakes. How to talk about them (because this is a good thing), how to deal with them... Because they're massively concerned with safety, while mistakes are unavoidable. And their way of dealing with it is what made their whole industry particularly safe in modern times.