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Dragon Rider (drag) being banned from the following communities for sharing DMs:
this post was submitted on 20 Feb 2025
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Already said it in !main@lemmy.blahaj.zone but I'll say it again so others can see it here.
It seems drag was banned from the site for sharing people's DMs, though I'm sure that's not the whole story, drag has a history of being banned for way more than just the thing on the label. Looking at the comments on drag's home instance where it hasn't been removed, it seems drag was sharing those DMs in attempt to libel Ada for not taking the action drag wanted. That's on top of the fact that she did not give drag permission to share them. It's an asshole move for sure, and I have to say if I were in Ada's shoes I'd do the same.
Ada was also already wary of drag after the respecting pronouns rule announcement, because a number of blahaj users rightfully pointed out drag is still likely a troll. Fluff around and find out basically.
It ultimately isn't surprising. Drag has been very sus from the beginning, drag exhibited a lot of behaviors that made me leery. Though at the time I didn't say anything since it was only a hunch and most people were just voicing transphobic complaints about pronouns.
What made drag feel suspicious?
I believe transparency is desirable and the single party consent rule in regards to private conversations should be the primary accepted doctrine here outside of any communique that is sexual/private and includes nudes and or personal data and could constitute doxxing.
That's your opinion, but many people do not agree with you. I myself would be pissed if you shared our DM convo without asking me first, or even letting me know you were going to. I can see why Ada would and why she did what she did, it's disrespectful and adversarial.
If its just a friendly convo yeah one parry would def be a dick to share that text dialogue but if you’re involved in a contentious dispute you should just assume your chat is going to be used against you. Single party consent is what allows us to put police and corporations in their place when they are doing shady shit being opposed to it just makes you look like you have something to hide. I know drag is a troll but banning him for posting dm screenshots is just shitty. And then pointing fingers as to who started what and who deserves what after the fact is also shitty. But what evs
Okay? Sure! Be pissed off when someone you trust violates your trust. That's not what happened here. Strangers on the Internet do not owe you anything. Even if you send them a DM.
Interesting that you say that
Single party consent, as I myself put my foot in yesterday, is by far not the norm.
Drag didn't know Ada didn't message spujb. Drag was making it clear to spujb and anyone reading the thread that drag wasn't lying. Drag is sorry to Ada and won't do it again. Drag tried to tell her earlier today, but drag couldn't