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I have been going to therapy off and on for years and whenever I bring up my desire to date and my difficulties with it I have gotten back to just work on myself and online I have seen "if you aren't happy alone you won't be happy in a relationship". I have major depression and have had it for years. Am I supposed to just hope it goes away? Wait until my entire life has passed?

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[โ€“] Jake_Farm@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I wouldn't know. It would probably take me months to figure out if the sort of people that attend these clubs would be dateable. I am no expert on hobby clubs but the little experience I have had with them is they tend to be small and hardcore. Since I am not hardcore about anything either due to personality or depression, it is difficult to gage if I have a place there.

[โ€“] untorquer@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

Hardest part is going, being open to new types of clubs, and sticking to it.

I would say that volunteer work is generally a better experience as well for both things.

Like you said, clubs focus on the thing where good volunteer work is both about the work and the people.