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Futa is a slur and shouldn't be used. (pastebin.com)

submitted 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) by FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/main@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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The word futa or futanari is a term I unfortunately see used against trans women and actual intersex people. It is a term which originated in porn and anime to describe someone with both types of genitals, usually though it just refers to someone who looks feminine and has a penis. So it's no surprise it's very often used to describe non-op trans women primarily. Because it's often used in porn it carries strong connotations of sexualization and dehumanization, it reduces the person being called futa to an object of sexual desire and doesn't respect them as a person.

This term is extremely disrespectful and really has no place being used, especially in reference to trans women. Additionally because of its relation to porn people who use it will almost certainly be seen as chasers.

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[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

You should not be using the term "hermaphrodite" to describe any trans person, in that context it is demeaning and invalidating. Also you should never describe intersex people as "hermaphrodites" we are by in large not hermaphrodites and using this term against us is hurtful and invalidating. Fuck off with this bigoted apologia.

[+] Kolanaki@pawb.social 1 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

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[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Again, have you actually seen someone using the term disparagingly against someone

That was literally the reason this thread was posted.

You have previously been instance banned specifically for coming in to a trans space to complain about trans folk not being supportive of your "allyship", and here you are again, in a trans meta community, arguing with gender diverse folk over objectifying terms levelled against our community.

Did you not learn anything last time?

Pull your head in

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social -1 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

Do you really think a single instance of someone using the term in an offensive way demands banning of the term entirely?

I agree it shouldn't be used as a slur; but if there's only been one example of it used that way, this is a massive fucking overreaction to it and that's what I am butting my head against with this instance. The community's overreaction to the smallest of perceived slights.

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 10 hours ago

The term is universally objectifying and sexualised when used against trans people, because it defines trans folk by their genitals and does so in a sexualised way.

It's one thing for a trans person to use the term for themselves, but yes, if someone else comes along and uses that term at a trans person without explicit consent, it absolutely deserves a ban and will get one.

And from your perspective, this is the end of the discussion. If you come back with more arguments or pushback against gender diverse folk talking in their own communities about terms referring to us, you will be getting a second instance ban. It's time to take onboard what you've heard, and bow out of this conversation.