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On being accepted by cis girls (jlai.lu)
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Hey girls and friends!

I am kinda timid even if I really like social contact, and for most of my life I have mostly had guy friends. I guess it's because it's easier to approach and be approched by guys when you whole body says that you are a guy... Also I was a student in computer science so there are mostly guys. Essentially my close-friends group is mostly trans girls and non-binary AFAB and guys. It's been a bit of an anxiety of mine that cis women wouldn't see me as a woman, but as a kinda creepy guy....

This week I contacted an old girl-friend of mine from Highschool and suggested that we had a drink since we hadn't seen each other in years. I also came out by message. The discussion at the bar was great and it was basically the first time that a cis woman welcomed me into womanhood. She discussed about how being a woman was awesome and that I will love it. This is so great. I have essentially never had a AFAB person tell me how womanhood is great, only about how bad it is.

Yesterday I attended another social event and the few girls there also treated me as one of their own. So yay, I place this week under the umbrella of "Being accepted by cis girls" and I love it! Much acceptance and validation <3

How's it for you? How was your week?

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[–] SkyezOpen@lemmy.world 28 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Also I was a student in computer science

There needs to be a study about this.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 1 day ago

probably something about shared genetic etiology between neurodivergence and gender dysphoria:

the G allele in STS is associated with reduced enzyme levels; this has been noted mostly in studies of ADHD (41), a condition with fivefold increased incidence of gender dysphoria (42), suggesting a possible overlap in etiology.

source

here's a link to citation 41

and a link to citation 42

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

either it's about transistors being trans-isters or sth

or - as i believe - it is because IT guys tend to have fewer muscles which makes them naturally a bit more girly, so the tendency is higher

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

ofc i also read some other wild conspiracy theories, like:

noble men in the medieval ages had a higher chance of being trans/fem because: they had to entertain diplomatic missions, and "diplomacy is made in the sheets", which means, a higher tendency to go to bed with others will make them more attractive as somebody to make alliances with. but since they also had to organize some stuff (bureaucracy and stuff) that created a natural correlation between neurospicy and gender queer.

[–] SkyezOpen@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

All I heard was diplomats get cute femmes, sign me up.