I think you and u/deur are talking about 2 different levels of control, similar to the difference between weather and climate.

I control when I get up in the morning, I control what job I sell out or stay at, etc., etc. But I have no control over the wildfire/tornado/hurricane/flood/landslide that takes out my house. I don't have control over the mass shooter/suicide bomber/terrorist attack that takes me out. I don't have control over a government insistent on destroying foreign relations and weakening the spending power of my dollar.

Individuals have control on a micro scale. The larger the scale gets, the less control one has. The only real control we have is how we react to the world around us.