It's unfortunately one of those communities that has ended up being hyper-competitive and gatekeepy af from my experience. Even as a dude, I don't go to LGSs to play anymore. I've had fun with drafts and prereleases, but it only takes one match out of 3 for me to regret showing up in person.

I would guess that commander tends to be more welcoming, assuming people are following the bracket system now.

(There's also something to be said about the smell, but not really sure what can be done about that. This might just be an issue at my LGS though.)