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Lemmings who made it out of incel-dom, what advice would you have to your previous self?
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Are you still angry at women for it?
does an answer here even matter? Whatever I place the blame of my situation on will not magically fix it.
That's true. Or at least, it won't directly. There are other people in the thread that had better luck as soon as they changed their attitude a bit, but I don't know your situation and can't guarantee anything.
It's more a question of if you've actually left the movement, or actually were in it in the first place. It's called "incel", but it's specifically about blaming women for said celibacy. And it makes a world of difference to other people if you blame them, or maybe even wish them harm.
Nah, I saw a contra points vid on incels, it was a bit of empathy that veered me away from that movement, even thought I really didn't go deep in it in the first place.
Link, for anyone else curious. I'm actually learning some things.
Empathy is good, I'm glad you found it. And I hope you "ascend" (one of the things I learnt), because few people can't.