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[–] DrQuint@lemm.ee 12 points 1 year ago (4 children)

No judgement. BUT. I have slightly less of an opinion of those who do it when visiting a foreign country. Like a number of other things (such as gambling) I don't quite like the idea of a city having their citizens relying on sex tourism for sustainability, which by itself is whatever. But mixing that with the concept of fetishizing other races makes it icky. I can't imagine a man with "class" doing it.

[–] Elw@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 1 year ago

This is something I struggle with too. On the one hand, I don’t want to say all instances are bad but there exists, definitely in Asian countries, sex work that caters specifically to ethnically based fetishes. On the one hand, fine, whatever gets your jimmy’s off as long as it’s consensual but I also think that these are often going to result in more exploitative environments when they occur in lower income areas.

[–] GarbageShoot@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago

You are ignoring the very important element of poverty. The prostitutes in these countries (SE Asia, historically Eastern Europe) are typically desperately poor and these tourists are burning money on leveraging the wealth they have from the imperial core to basically use these people as slaves, typically with few words that even could be spoken between then and no recourse for the prostitute if the john gets violent (what is she going to do, tell the cops that she was assaulted by the westerner she was prostituting for? Whose side would they take?)

[–] Jaded@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm the opposite. If someone does it at home, they probably do so regularly while a vacation is once every now and then. I've known a couple of normal people that did it on vacay, it's just another facet of the party for them, letting down their hair etc. The ones I know that do it at home tho...yikes. But it's all kind of gross regardless.

[–] GarbageShoot@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Where do they go "on vacay," pray tell?

[–] Jaded@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 year ago

It's not always sex tourism. Of the people I was referring to, it was during a week-long fishing trip, the prostitution wasn't the reason for the trip and only occupied a small part of it.

I think it's gross regardless and I'd rather none of it was a reality, so you'll have to find someone else to argue with.