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I'm in a hetero relationship and I use it. To me it just seems like a much more descriptive term, since they're literally your partner in life's highs and lows.
Not a native speaker here. I infer from your statement that partner is not the default term in english, then ? Or are you colloquialy supposed to specify the gender ?
In general, the norm is boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, etc. I never heard partner until after college and started using it pretty regularly (I mean, it just sounds so much more eloquent. Also anyone can be partners, married or just dating), but I think it’s an easy way for LGBT+ folk to not ‘out’ themselves when talking to inconsequential people.
This is why conservatives hate the more general use of "partner." It became a way to out gay people because it became a common coded term to not out themselves.
Using the term to not out yourself was a way to out yourself that is being unwound by common usage of "partner" by everyone.
The more typical words would be "husband / wife" or "boyfriend / girlfriend" which have gender built into them. Whereas "partner" is more popular with lefty folks who want to use the same word no matter what the gender of their partner is.
But importantly there will be gay men who say "husband" or "boyfriend" when referring to their partner, and lesbians might say "wife" or "girlfriend", and some straight people will say "partner", so partner doesn't only mean homosexual.
Some straight people say it to provide cover for homosexual people who say it, so that it remains an ambiguous term, but also a lot of people of all sexualities like the term because it shows a commitment to their relationship without involving marital status. Like "boyfriend" can feel a bit new, or a bit highschool. But not everyone gets married anymore. So maybe you've been together for 12 years, but you aren't married, so you can't say "wife", but "girlfriend" maybe feels a bit childish for this women you've been committed to for over a decade and live with and maybe even have pets or kids together. So even for straight people "partner" can be a mature, committed, term without relying on marriage.
Some people will use "significant other", sometimes shortened to "SO", as a different way of saying the same thing. That one feels even more... dry?... to me. It feels like something you'd see on a government form. But some people use it and love it. And sometimes people will say things like "my better half" or something like that to refer to their partner, and that one is a little more folksy and warm.
So to wrap up, partner has been gaining popularity for a while, and has some advantages, but most of those advantages apply to non-traditional situations. The traditional version would be man meets woman and gets married quickly. So in some places and communities and cultures "partner" will be a very normal word, but in some more traditional areas it might make people suspicious when you use it because they'll think "why did this guy not say wife... is he secretly gay?" or something.