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Changes in how couples in the US met (i.ibb.co)

submitted 1 year ago by keenkoon@lemm.ee to c/dataisbeautiful@lemmy.ml

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[–] ThatWeirdGuy1001@sh.itjust.works -1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yes that's how most relationships start. The man is the one initiating contact. If a man doesn't initiate contact he doesn't get a girl. Men are left wanting while women have several options almost at all times.

I know the current view of men is that we're all just potential rapists or abusers but that's exactly why so many men are trying to prove themselves. They're just trying to prove they're not what most women today think all men are.

Meanwhile women just exist. That's literally all they have to do.

[–] agressivelyPassive@feddit.de 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's almost a textbook incel comment.

If women don't want you, that's because you are not desirable. It's that easy.

I'm not a "chad" by any stretch and rather introvert. Yet even I was hit on by women. And I had good times with them. Didn't always work out, but that's expected.

What you're trying to do here is essentially shifting blame. As I wrote above, there are about as many men as there are women. That means, if you can't find anyone, that means your imagined "worth" and your desired partner's "worth" are not the same - and not in your favor.

[–] ThatWeirdGuy1001@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not desirable because I have resting bitch face. I always look like I'm angry even when I'm not. I'm also 6'3" so I'm imposing. I'm also covered in tattoos and scars some of which are obviously from self harm.

All of these individually are reasons for women to be uninterested in me. All of them together make me damn near impossible to approach.

And even when I do approach women they're so busy being afraid of my physical appearance they can't see that I'm not even close to a threat to them.

[–] agressivelyPassive@feddit.de 0 points 1 year ago

And that is not any women's fault.

BTW: there's a good chance, that your way of approaching other people is far more threatening/aggressive than you might think.