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I'm not sure if this is the right place but me and my friend group have lately become privacy conscious and wanted to stop using discord and other types of social media, and only log onto self hosted options that only we can access.

we've eliminated something like Revolt (now named Stoat due to it missing ideal features and the developers being anti-decentralized (as well as being extremely hostile to the userbase noticably...)

Does anyone have any idea what would be an ideal service to use?

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[–] guynamedzero@piefed.zeromedia.vip 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Seconding this! I have my own matrix server, it can be a bit of a pain to set up, but it works better than 99% of any other alternatives (trust me, I’ve tried almost every one of them)

[–] Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I started trying to set it up last week, I can't seem to figure out why authentik and it will not play. It either tries authentik and gets a 404 or ignores it and doesn't find the user. (Nginx is also involved). It's the least user friendly thing I've tried to self host so far

for future me: Matrix, MAS, Authentik and nginx are working okay now. I because I tested out matrix, I needed to wipe the database, then my account would load right. Importantly, getting all the URLs correct was important, and important to nginx as well.

Using MAS helped clear things up, as is one set of documentation for mas as opposed to merging docs for a bunch of different authentication services to figure out what's going on. Pay attention to the ports in their documents, and what gets routed where.

Next step: voice and video