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submitted 9 months ago by kiri@ani.social to c/animemes@ani.social
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[-] Emi@ani.social 11 points 9 months ago

Planning on making an account too because I have no idea how to interact with people outside. Hope to find at least someone I understand with.

[-] Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it 18 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I suggest to just talk with people online using social media and social networks, try to not use tinder because it's based on the look and IMO ot's a toxic thing. For example i know a lot of funny people from discord

[-] kayzeekayzee@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 9 months ago

The problem with discord is that it's also filled with a lot of very weird children

[-] Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it 7 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Stay away from communities that allow childrens then, there are plenty that are adults only, for example a friend of mine run one

[-] Emi@ani.social 5 points 9 months ago

Ten problém is on discord they usually live on other side of the world.

[-] Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it 1 points 9 months ago
[-] SaberKazd@sopuli.xyz 1 points 9 months ago

You had my curiosity, but now you have my attention. I'm not well versed in discord, how exactly does one look for local communities?

[-] Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

There should be a compass button to search communities or you can use a website like disboard/discadia and such (i usually use those websites) Or do it in the hard way: look up online communties in various socialmedia or streamer/youtuber and see if they have a discord server

[-] Verdorrterpunkt@feddit.org 9 points 9 months ago

Have you ever applied for jobs? I think dating apps are somehwat comparably demotivating. Just be sure you can handle it.

[-] Asafum@feddit.nl 9 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Try if you must, but as a guy after 10 years on and off these dating sites I just completely gave up. It's like a constant attack on your self worth and for me I just ended up feeling absolutely pathetic and worthless. I'm still lonely but I feel better than getting ignored constantly and literally only getting likes/messages from bots that want to scam you.

In that 10 year span I went on maybe 6 dates total...

[-] Contramuffin@lemmy.world 7 points 9 months ago

Pro tip: don't. It'll make you feel worse than if you just isolated yourself.

The incentive structure of dating apps is completely twisted and makes you feel like every part of yourself is getting commodified and ranked.

Find some social groups or clubs and go hang out there. You'll have a much better time. Many people don't mind if you aren't comfortable with communicating, just being present is a positive in their book.

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